To hate it when people make snap judgments?

[minionmothaa]

Ok so first of all I know this is petty.

I have recently started learning a new skill; I liked the teacher at first but now I think I will change as a lot of lesson time is spent chatting and I don't feel like it's a very efficient use of our time and my money really. Being very English I obviously haven't told her this and am very polite and nice to her in person

Anyway I have just finished university but for personal reasons couldn't take all my exams this year. For that reason I have been applying for part time jobs which will allow me to juggle studying and working

She questioned me on why I wanted to work PT to which I replied that I had a couple of exams still left which I wanted to focus on. I deliberately didn't talk about why I hadn't taken them. (I'm an older student btw in mid twenties and went to a pretty good uni in a huge city; it's not common for people in my local area to study there.) She said with kind of a sneery voice, oh I know what you mean - resits!!

I then moved the conversation on saying they weren't resits but she took the piss a couple of times after, making little jokes about me going home to study, nudge nudge

Reading this back I think I'm being pretty over sensitive aren't i! But anyone else hate it when people do this?? It really wasn't gee place to comment, re sits or not

Wasn't her place to comment

I'm being ridiculous aren't I... Baby keeping me up all night

No she sounds like a pratt.

No, she sounds like she was trying goad / wind you up. I wouldn't warm to it either, I find this trait really annoying. Yes, nice laugh for you; me not so much. Jog on, love.

Thanks, yeah that was exactly how I saw it!!

I haven't gone on about my career plans or whatever (why would she care) but am academically bright and good at what I do. I know that's irrelevant to her but it makes me a bit irrationally annoyed when someone pisses on years of hard work just to get a laugh..

She also refers to herself in the third person a lot twat

She questioned me on why I wanted to work PT

'Not sure that's relevant, why do you feel you need to know?'

OP just be more guarded and don't go back to this bully.

Or go back and make her life hell. Be obstinate, opinionated, and question everything she says.

OR
'blah blah blah resits' Sit up/down, take out your notebook, lick your pencil and note down every time she says anything like this, with time date, words said and who was in the room. If she asks what you are doing, tell her you have been advised to note down all circumstances of bullying. Do not tell her anything else, or who advised you. And smile whilst you do it.

Thanks Doreen. She's nosey and a lot older than me which is why I feel uncomfortable asking her to be quiet or anything along those lines - wish I had the guts!

I think it winds me up so much because she keeps asking about my career plans, job interviews etc by way of making small talk and I have been deliberately under-playing them because it's not relevant and also I don't want to be seen as some sort of jumped-up show off. (They're nothing that special but I have an unusual degree and I've got a City type finance job offer, and I can imagine saying something along those lines to her would go down like a cup of cold sick.) Tbh fuck it I might just say it and wind her up!!

Also the "skill" is actually driving lessons and very annoyingly I have paid for a block of lessons in advance!!! She chats the whole time which is very very annoying and was 15 minutes later for my crack of dawn (7.15am) lesson yesterday

Oh you get some real nutcases who are driving instructors! You don't have to stay with her, you know.

Is she working on her own or is she with a company?

IME the bad ones are the ones who try to make you pay in advance as they know once you get to know them, you won't want to stay with them.

V true imperial!! I am on my 6th lesson out of 10 and will def be moving when these are over. She's really infuriating; I normally have quite a high tolerance for characters like her but she is not good at all

She tells me different stories about her personal life each lesson; so the other week was about how her and her husband met; today we had her parents' stories! So inappropriate and frankly I'd just prefer to concentrate on the driving

Get yourself a new teacher. Driving lessons are very expensive and you have to gel with the person teaching you.

I had an instructor years and years ago who wanted me to drive barefoot. He talked about it all the time. Why wouldn't I? Most people wanted to. He hardly knew anyone who didn't. Why didn't I try it? Oh fuck off and leave me alone! That was the only lesson I had. I bet he's so happy now he can go online and see as many feet as he likes.

Maybe swerve dangerously each time the woman starts to talk. Or just say, "Sorry, I find it hard to concentrate when you're talking."

Hahaha Imperial, small mercies - I guess I should be glad feet aren't her thing

Every lesson I'm so tempted to say that about her talking but I bottle it and then make inane mmhmm noises as she continues, she probably thinks I enjoy hearing her crazy stories

I had ten pre-booked lessons with a ghastly instructor. She preferred me when I was obviously stressed or under the weather, and her mood became visibly chillier if I was even mildly cheerful. She would ask what I'd done at the weekend and if it was anything sociable or involving travel, she would glower like a bulldog and say 'I just stayed in. With the remote. And a takeaway. I'M not a social butterfly.' I was black in the face from not saying 'No shit, Sherlock.'

And any time we drove through her neighbouring village, she would glare at blameless-looking people and say 'She's my neighbour. You can run over HER if you like...'