Hi all,
I am having some issues with my neighbour. This is a bit long winded, sorry, but i am quite upset and hurt and could do with some constructive feedback.
Here's some background on the neighbour: My neighbour and I became friends after dhe moved in and our kids (now 5) started playing together in the communal garden. She does not drive, so over the 2 years i would take her food shopping, to town shopping, take ids on days out, doctors appointments, etc.
For a while, she would also have her daughter knock my door and pretty much stay for the day whilst she showered, dreesed, cleaned, watch tv, etc. sometimes she would come in for a cuppa but then they would both stay the whole day and even expected to get fed lunch and dinner. My husband would some times suprise with a take away if he had a good week in work but got fed up of coming home and finding them sat there, refusing to leave and watching us eat our dinner with her daughter nagging for our food and mum saying no but not leaving. So he said something and she got the hint and did it less.
Her daughter also aggrevated our son and would not let him play with his own toys...she'd kick up a fuss saying he wouldn't share when he had only just picked it up. I also caught her lying a few times about my son to get him in trouble. So i stopped them hanging out so much and eventually they'd only see each other in the garden.
About a month ago, we walked out the block on our way to a farm to meet some friends and her daughter was sat on the playing and starting talking to us. She told me she didnt want to be left alone or dragged around the flats as her mum cleaned the flats (shes the cleaner for the communal areas). So i spoke to her mum and offered to take her to the farm but she said she already had plans but maybe have a cuppa later. I left it at that. The following weeks i went away and got caught up with work and didnt see her. Then one day i realise she has actually been avoiding me and ignoring my texts. Even if i bumped into her i'd say hi and she'd reply whilst rushing off. I had no idea why so i left it and thought she'd let me know when she was ready.
Then 2 days ago i go out into the garden to pack away all the toys and chairs to find the mini bouncy castle i had left on the communal washing line (let the rain wash off the dirt) had been thrown on the grass and the washing line has been put down. It was ruined and gross. I wasn't happy. I put a wendy house and toys in the garden for my son but told everyone they are welcome to use it any time but please look after it and let me know if anything gets damaged. I thought that was fair. I stupidly, put a status on facebook saying i was basically annoyed that no one told me it was rotting on the ground but were happy to use everything ( i know, i know
Please domt focus on my stupid moment). This was not aimed at anyone in particular since i had no idea who did it and there are a few ppl who use the stuff in the garden.
I then get a s*ty text from this neighbour. I try to be reasonable but she keeps having the a go and i snap and call her out on her recent behaviour (some attitude included). She really doesnt like that. She wont sort this face to face either and sticks to text!!! I wind up telling her it was nice knowing her and take care as i've had a gutsfull of the texts.
The following day she corners my husband expecting him to back her up but is instead shocked to find out my husband knows everything and agrees with his wife. He even tells her she has been ignoring us for weeks, so she starts shouting (other neighbours present for audience effect) " i feel like a victim in my own home, i shouldn't be made to feel this way".
After everything, i feel used by her. I still have no idea why she decided to ignore us in the first place.
How do i handle the situation??
Thanks