..to keep this gift from my XH?

[Itsacoupleofsongswhocares]

I'll keep it brief, but just hoping for some opinions on this please? I've been with my lovely DH for a long time now, we have a brilliant Rship, 3 DCs. I Divorced my awful XH years ago.
DH and I moved house at the beginning of the year, Mountains of things were crammed away, but a week ago i I went through old boxes, and came across my 1st very old MP3 player. I'd forgotten about it. I put it in to charge and it still works. I think for that one time in the Rship, my X actually went 'all out', and put thought behind a gift . It has all the songs that i grew up loving. So when I found it, I charged it and have it ready to use again when I go out for a run walk.
My DH though, has really made this into an issue, and I don't know if he's actually right. He said I should get rid of it, and why do I need to 'be reminded' of my XH.
I don't see it as a reminder of anyone, its just the music I loved, and still like to listen to when I'm out on my own. Nothing else.
It really isn't a reminder of XH. He bought the present i know, but i liked the music before i even met him in the first pkace?.

I just would like to know if people on MN think IWBU to keep the present, or if DH is right and it should go? Thanks in advance

Sounds like a good outcome OP.

FWIW, it does sound like one of those irrational things that bother you, but you don't know why iykwim? The fact that he's being so nice about it suggests that your DH feels the same way.

Bonus for you either way!

'He's being ridiculous and possessive.'

Where were all you people on the thread where it was the husbands expensive watch from his ex that was being discussed?? no double standards on MN at all

God, I still wear the watch an old boyfriend gave me. I don't think OH knows where it came from, but I can't imagine he'd care.

It's an MP3 player. Not exactly an "intimate" gift like jewellery.

I would keep it, unless new h has already given you a new one?

It might not work for ever, so make the most of it.

Keep it. Your dh is being ridiculous. My dh still uses an electric razor an ex bought for him and I couldn't care less. I don't see how it reminds you of your ex when you use it just because he bought it. A sentimental picture or something I could understand but a functional gadget? No. Keep it and tell dh he's being a tit.

ohh... did that thread get zapped, the one about the OH over the top priced watch that she wanted to sell because she wanted an extn? I think...

oh no - its here

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2460685-To-force-my-husband-to-sell-his-beloved-watch

(dunno how much you'd get for an old MP3 player with 80/90s music on it, although it might be antique now or at the least vintage!)

Where were all you people on the thread where it was the husbands expensive watch from his ex that was being discussed??

Maybe we did post on that thread?

Don't let reality get in the way of a good double standards whinge

OhFuckWhatHaveIDone

But did you?

I won't, but thanks anyway

But did you?

If I'm capable of searching my name, why aren't you?

FWIW, my view is that the husband is being ridiculous & possessive, as was the wife in the other thread.

It's yours - do what you like with it....

If I'm capable of searching my name, why aren't you?

Really Dear?

It's because I don't have any desire to as your lack of a point wasn't at all interesting!!

I can't emphasise how little I care what you've posted on, ever.

HTH

Challenges me on whether I did in fact post on a thread
Acts as if it's ridiculous that I should think she is interested as to whether or not I posted on said thread

Someone must be bored and/or drunk

Lol @ shagging mix. Yes I don't think I'd like DH listening to Barry White albums from his ex!! OP I'm glad you've got this sorted :)