About my DD's boyfriend?

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DD is in her early twenties and has been going out the BF for almost a year.

He's driving me mad and I'm not sure if I'm just being a grumpy old cow.

He follows her everywhere- if she's at work, he'll show up ten mins before she 's due to finish to meet her. If he can't do that because he's at work, then he comes straight to our house once he's finished. (Which can be anything between 4-6pm, he stays until 11pm ish.) It's constant, 7 nights a week.

It's really starting to annoy me- am I just getting grumpy in my old age? (DD is getting fed up of it too!)

Sounds like a jealous possessive type. I'd be worried.

Yanbu and its your house so you shouldn't have to put up with him 7 nights of the week

I'd be tempted to plan a girly evening, you, dd, maybe a couple of friends, and say to him in advance that it was a girls only night. Sit back, and see what happens.

I would be worried about a boyfriend who had no outside interests. Does his whole life revolve around your DD ?

YANBU.

I know someone who was like this. He even lost a job because he would leave part way through to go and stalk see his GF. She couldn't do anything without him knowing exactly where she was etc. Thankfully she eventually left him but as they have a child it didn't end there because she couldn't not see him. He bullyed her into giving him custody of their child and signing over her flat to him. He then made it extremely awkward for her to ever see her child, AFAIK she took him to court eventually but she's still too scared to go for full custody. I honestly think he wanted custody as a way of controlling her. He would also go and sit in a relatives house for hours at the window because her parent lived across the road and he would be watching for her coming and going.

Nasty piece of work. Not saying your DD's boyfriend do is like this but it started off very slowly and progressed later on. I'm positive there must be a lot more that we don't know about.

I think the conversation you should have is with your dd, not him.

And just for a bit of balance, I had a boyfriend like this once. I got bored and dumped him and nothing bad happened at all. We just both moved on. He might be jealous/possessive/stalkery or, alternatively, just a bit needy.