Why is everyone here mortified and or humiliated?

[LittleRedSparkle]

Is it just me or is everyone getting a little too stressed about life or something?

So many threads with "I'm so mortified and/or humiliated?" They seem to be quite simple things too

I really don't understand how some MNetters get through life when such unimportant and banal incidents take on such significance.

What the hell do they do when something that's actually distressing happens?.

Yay Herman. Perhaps I've lived a charmed life but I don't think I've ever been upset to the point of crying and shaking unless it was in the aftermath of a bereavement or the diagnosis of a serious illness.

I've read some posts recently where the OP seems to have got themselves into a right state over something that I would brush off as a minor inconvenience. To be charitable, perhaps some people are simply less emotionally robust? Less charitably, it's likely they simply enjoy the drama of it all.

Although. I have a pal who underplays her stories to such a degree that you would think her heart was stone.

She told me a story once about a lorry heading towards her down the wrong way of a motorway.

I gasped and exclaimed shock and horror as appropriate but she did and and said "but it was fine. It pulled over and we all drove on."

Brilliant and the opposite of the hyperbole you see on here at times.

What is the opposite of hyperbole?

And no-one just speaks to anyone. They always 'confront' them. Except when it really is important. Then you don't speak to the person face to face, you send a text.

Passme hypobole? Blatantly not a word, let's try and get it in the dictionary

I do wonder how when people are in such a state the first thought is to post about it on MN.
Wouldn't be my first thought i would be be nosing in the wine rack.

Indeed, Tea. I'm often left wondering whether I'm a hard nosed old cow with no feelings or I've lived a charmed life.

I like it magpie

Annoyingly I just said to my DH "what is the opposite of hyperbole?"
And without even looking up he said "litotes"

I am mortified!

Or "feeling physically sick". You mean you were a bit upset.

There also seem to be a lot of people who tell us that they are fucking furious about things. Also livid. And then there are those who claim to have been crying for hours or even days on end. Call me heartless, but I've never managed that even at the saddest moments in my life.

It should be hypobole.

I often think the same too. It's like people are getting weaker too, all sensitive to things people who don't have much impact on life say or think like school gate mums or someone on a bus etc. I think 'did your mother never teach you to grow thicker skin?'

To be fair, there are a lot of threads started where people are berated because this site is "AIBU" so I think posters think they need a reason to post here when the real reason is that they want traffic, because there are also a lot of threads here where people say "I originally posted this in xxx (eg "legal") but got no response"

One of my fav people in RL is a cousin who is VERY gobby, and one of her lines that she screams at me is "first world problem!!!!" and I often think that the threads posted (including mine) are VERY first world! It's not often starving children, is it!

But then I'll read a post where a person is almost literally in bits, and I remember why I love MN!

Sproketmx It does seem that social media is engendering a weird weak conformity where even the mildest criticism or disagreement is 'hate' as in 'haterz'. Is it spilling into RL?

No conformity here though. Every spread of opinion expressed... robustly.

But then I'll read a post where a person is almost literally in bits, and I remember why I love MN!
I've been through many hellish situations in life and find a lot of what is posted here a bit pathetic but then I read a post from someone whose life is imploding and wish I could hold their hand and help them IRL.

Ah prole. Of course social media. A whole outraged campaign to ban someone who put up a page about tattood mothers causing hurt and anguish amongst women. As a tattood mother I couldn't give a stuff.

Not as bad as the posters who misuse the word "mortified", seeming to think it's synonymous with "horrified". It's not.

Mortified translates into scottish as 'pure black affrontit'