to be pissed off with people

[WitchOfAlba]

I've taken part in a fund raising event for a hospice recently, I set up a Just Giving page, i told my friends and family about it, I shared it on my FB and twitter page.

Total raised? £0. I'm so embarrassed and so pissed off. I wouldn't mind but people suggested I do it as they thought it'd be a good way to raise some money.

The friends who suggested you ask for sponsorship are probably the same type who suggest to colleagues that they have a leaving do, then don't go to it!

For me marathons and long cycle rides etc people do for their own self fulfilment so I won't sponsor them. What has it got to do with the charity? If you wanted to raise money and did something useful like read to children or old people in the hospice then I'd definitely sponsor. But not via just giving. I prefer to send direct via the charity's own web page.

My facebook is full of requests - so I have a blanket no donations as we are broke - I feel bad but non necessary spending has to be cut. I can hear my sister bitterly complaining what's a few quid for my night walk etc but she has a 6 figure salary no kids and time to do this stuff. I worry about the bills constantly). However, those that encouraged you, a gentle reminder I think!!

Also - Just Giving do take a percentage of donations and some people feel they prefer to donate directly to the organisation.

This is only kind of true, charities pay to have the just giving service, but it's really not that expensive, and they will pay the same regardless of how many people use them for sponsorship, or how much is donated on each persons page, so there's no real reason for it to put people off. All the money that anyone donates does go straight to the charity.

Have people already made a donation to the hospice? Or maybe so sired someone else?

Tbh I suffer from sponsorship fatigue. Between having 2 kids in two schools I am sponsoring every month. I can't expect family to give to anything. In my sins primary they do ones where if the kids raise £50 they get a free skipping rope. That really pisses me off as it puts families under pressure. Then there are school discos to pay for, make sales etc all on top of uniform, trips and shoes.

Then I have people doing charity boxing matches, tough kidder, Spartan race etc. not a week goes by without someone in RL asking for money.

And tbh if someone said to me 'I am think of doing xyz, for charity' I wouldn't just say 'oh that's great but I can afford to donate' I would just say 'or that great good luck'

I am also one for skimming past donation pages on fb.

But well done for actually doing it OP!

Agree with 'sponsorship fatigue' - that's a great term for it.

I have virtually no disposable income, and while the odd one it was fine, but I really can't afford to do that anymore. It'll only be my DSCs that I sponsor now (my own DCs aren't old enough to be doing this yet).

I donated more (for me £20 is a lot) to an old school friend though, as she was doing absolutely incredible work as an engineer, in Africa, designing ways of getting safe water to villages. That is very different to a 10k or giving up booze or growing a mustache (while 2 of those three are still very good, admirable things to do!)

I naively had no idea that Just Giving took a cut. Ugh.

I can see why you're annoyed though, with the friends who pushed you into doing it in the first place - that did make it sound like they'd sponsor you really.