To ask what your 8 mo is/was like?

[Drmum83]

Ok, ftm, neurotic at times. Personality dictates I always have to have something to worry about/obsess over

My DD is 8 mo
She's well, sitting, feeding well, not crawling. I can't help but compare her to other kids...
She's happy when well napped and full belly, will sit and play with a toy for a few minutes, likes to be picked up, spontaneously smiles and belly laughs to peek a boo/tickles
Around unfamiliar ppl, she is incredibly shy, difficult to get her to smile until she has fully warmed up - default seems to be concerned face. Not happy being held by anyone other than me and DH really.
My NCT group kids are crawling, happier to go to other adults and less reserved.
I'm not that worried, it's just a so called friend started mentioning autism as her DS was 'always giggling at anyone at this age' - got my cogs whirring...

Tell me what your 8mo is like, thanks!

hacker - thanks for the info! Your DD sounds like a real cutie!

Are any of your babies clapping/pointing/imitating?

(I mean following to see what you're pointing at)

She sounds a lot like my 8.5 month old DD. She's a placid, calm little thing, unless someone else tried to pick her up, and then her face crumples and the hysterics start. In the wrong mood she won't even go to DH. She doesn't crawl, but sits well and moves in other ways. She sometimes does whole-arm waving, but no proper waving / pointing / clapping yet. She's my third and I have no concerns at all. In fact she is very like my eldest at this age - he was a thinker rather than a mover as a baby, and at 7 he is a really (exceptionally) bright, thoughtful and calm child (but sensitive, and not sporty at all).

Ds was clapping and waving around 1yr and didn't follow pointing until over 18months.

DD who is eight months now can sit if put in the sitting position and roll both ways (both learnt this week).trying to crawl but I think it will be a few months. She isn't really bothered who looks after her provided they have food and lots of it. Weaning us perhaps going to well she is around 10kgs, 74cm.
Giggles a bit but no where near as much as her brother. Screams if her brother gets near the top of her head, I've no idea why.
She isn't clapping etc and i don't expect it for a few months at least.

Sounds very similar to my DD! She's 18 mo and STILL can't crawl, stand from sitting or sit from being on her back, but she'll get there. She can, however, walk, run, stand on one leg, dance... In recent weeks she's started rolling again, but only one way. She never really got the hang of that and sort of gave up learning. I think she could stand up against the sofa at 8mo but wasn't cruising.

At 8mo though she was a shy little thing who screamed if anybody except me, DH or DM even looked at her, let alone touched her. This included people in shops and her paternal grandparents. Now she's okay with PIL and is getting better with strangers. She's even started waving bye-bye to cashiers! Compared to how she was a few months ago, that's massive.

Eating was and is crap, but improving. She could play independently for a couple of minutes.

Your DD sounds very normal to me!

Yes Mines been waving for about a month and a half and clapping for 2. She doesn't point or imitate yet.

My DD started clapping at about 8 months and followed my pointing but didn't point herself (that just started now at 10 months). Wasn't waving then either or crawling and not very good at rolling (kept forgetting how to do it) but loved sitting. So more advanced on some aspects and behind on others, which I'm sure is perfectly normal.

Your 'friend' sounds like a real piece of work. It sounds like your baby is absolutely normal - why should she like smiling at strangers! My DD is very smiley and social but her stranger anxiety really peaked around 7-8 months and she would randomly cry at people.

Fucking hell my kids are slow to learn shit!

My ds couldn't even sit up at this age. He is now 9 and I promise you can't tell!

My second is 8mo tomorrow - not sitting, rolls, drags herself around the floor to get where she wants, happiest when naked on the floor, semi-BLW but is aggressively fond of food so gets spoon fed way more than my first did, sleeps way better than my first did but still up a couple of times a night. Fairly comfortable around people but happiest at home - starts beaming the second the pushchair gets back in the front door. Making some mamamama sounds. Utterly adores her big sister despite the constant mauling she receives.

Hi drmum, I have a 7.5 mo DS who is also not really crawling yet - not great at sitting either - just rolls and rolls. Try not to worry, your DD sounds perfect! Talk to other RL mum friends - not the crazy one. ??I'm sure they will reassure you

Dc1 - at 8 months was sitting well, beginning to commando crawl, suspicious of strangers, amused himself quite well.

Dc2- crawling and standing at 8 months, a little less reserved than dc1.

Dc3 - also crawling and standing, never been reserved, loves everyone and anyone!

I had an early mover - rolled by 3 mths, crawling 5mths was cruising at 8mths and walking steps at 9mth - but he was a late talker at 3 and still having speech therapy - personally would prefer late mover and early talker :)

My friend's dd bum shuffled until over 18 mths and is fine and dandy.

Try not to obsess - easier said than done.

DS didn't start to crawl until 9 months, and took another 2 months to master crawling on all fours (used to drag himself forward with one arm before that).

At 13 months he still doesn't clap. Occasionally waves or copies a gesture (since 12 months), and points sometimes (very recent).

He is pretty slow at hitting milestones. I have read that as long as they keep making steady progress it is fine, they all do things at their own pace.

I'm probably not going to help you. All mine were crawling by 6 months and walking between 10 months and a year. My friends little boy is like yours though. She's a pretty hands on mum whereas I pretty much had my first lot back to back so there was a lot of being left to their own devices because there was another baby or I was too much of a hippo to move