More of a rant than anything, but it's hard for me to understand her objectively and I'm getting tired of trying to defend or sympathise with her on her many crusades.
All my life she seems to have enjoyed the drama of being at odds with someone or another. She has stopped talking to her best friend of 40 years because apparently the friend is 'jealous' of her. She stops talking to her boyfriend of many years every few months because he 'doesn't give me enough attention'. I'm expected to listen for literally hours on end while DM goes on and on about this kind of thing, but she ignores all practical offers of advice.
DM has recently taken to arguing with me and DBro about how the Government should 'look after our own' and 'she didn't get any help when she asked for it'. She is anti-refugee, anti-migrant, anti-anything which doesn't benefit her directly.
Probably worst of all, a close relative of hers has recently been taken seriously ill, and DM has decided that she's 'faking it for attention and benefits'. She is very upset that this relative is taking time and donations of money from other family members who are trying to get her good treatment and make her as comfortable as possible now her circumstances have changed (she's had to give up work). My DM is heavily hinting that her inheritance is under threat now.
I'm thinking more and more that she's never got over her father's death when she was a young adult. Emotionally she seems stuck at around 13...everything is centred around her. I don't think she's once taken a genuine positive interest in anyone else's activities unless it affects her. Is this relationship salvageable? Is there any ways anyone else has connected or found common ground with a self-absorbed parent?
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Phonebox · 13/09/2015 11:48
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