to leave a note for upstairs neighbors loud tv or aibu?

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It is blaring, i cannot hear my own TV. This man is so inconsiderate its a joke. I actually think he is doing it to wind me i mentioned to him before about the lack of sound proofing and hearing everything but i guess he didn't take the hint?
I have been here since April, so before complaining i wanted him to get use to someone living here as the flat was vacant for a year and i understand he may have got some noisy habits but he is still living like nobody is below him.
He also slams doors, wears shoes in the flat which make his footsteps sound even louder.
He is really irritating me, why is it upstairs neighbors are always arseholes!
well i say that but i have someone below me but i dont walk around in shoes and i laid 10mm underlay under my carpet.
This guy i suspect has no underlay as i had my downstairs neighbor in and he said i sound nothing like him upstairs, he said he barely hears me only when i drop something.

Maybe i am being unreasonable, am i? i am pregnant so im super moody but hearing every word of someones tv cannot be normal can it?

ps if you think i should leave a note, what should i write?

Write: Turn your TV down you inconsiderate twat!
Yanbu, I used to live in a flat where upstairs neighbour listened to really loud porn most nights

Don't leave a note - talk to him. If it's annoyingly loud, go round and ask him could he turn it down? If you can make light of it rather than being confrontational it could help. Only resort to notes if he won't answer the door or speak to you.

lol marple im trying to be polite but it is hard i really do feel like saying something like that!

wowfudge, do you think i should go now? i am a bit pissed now tbh maybe in the morning

Don't confront a man alone. Only go if you have someone with you. Keep safe.

I agree with wowfudge. Diffrences are resolved much better if you can chat to the person. Leaving a note makes things formal and is far less likely to get a favourable response.

I also agree with wowfudge.

Go in the morning when you're calm. Be polite but assertive. Document every interaction with him (write down the time and date of the conversation, and what was said, when you get home). Only escalate to writing if he ignores your request.

Keep a written log of when he's being noisy from now on, in case you need it later as evidence.

Good luck. I lived under noisy upstairs neighbours for 2 years, it is hideous.

I would go around at some point when the TV is actually on too loud. And now is a good chance before you have a crying baby in the house!

Pregnant and a bit pissed?

I'm hoping OP meant pissed off as in angry rather than pissed as in drunk.

Oh yes

God quietbat, I actually don't know what's worse there, her inconsiderate noisiness or her choice of songs

Notes and hints don't work. Be direct.

I think you need to be more direct and ask him in person to turn it down as he probably doesn't realise how loud it is.