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AIBU to think this probably means I am infertile and I should start to think about adoption...

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DennyDifferent · 12/09/2015 22:13

I have posted looking for advice before but I think maybe the things I am going through are just not that common as I have not had much luck, reply-wise.

Nearly 4 years ago I had a private ultrasound that found these black splotches on the lining of my uterus. I took the pics to the GP and they referred me to the gynae. They told me they were cysts caused by PCOS, (PCOS was confirmed with blood tests) they said PCOS causes cysts everywhere in the body so why not the uterus, (When I asked why I had cysts in my uterus). That was all the info I was given other than to loose weight. I have since found out it is not true, PCOS doesn't cause cysts randomly in other parts of the body.

I've had irregular periods for the last few years, but when I do have one they are really painful and heavy, full of massive clots and they really knock me out. Sometimes I'm sick with the pain. I went back to the GP this year and said I needed more help than just to be told to loose weight, I am making slow progress with that, 3 stone in four years with 5 to go. I was also concerned about the black things too as I could not find anything about uterine cysts being caused by PCOS. I had another ultrasound and the black things were still there 3 and a bit years later. The gynae said they thought they were polyps. I was booked in for a hysteroscopy and polypectomy. When I came round the Registrar said they were not polyps but it is in fact Endometrial Hyperplasia, thickening of the uterine lining. They have sent off a biopsy and given me a follow up appointment for October. I have Googled and its a bit scary.

It developed because I have had low progesterone all this time and it has gone untreated all this time, if the NHS had followed up the private ultrasound and not just dismissed me for being overweight it could have been treated nearly 4 years ago! I'm a bit scared as it can become pre cancerous and one of the treatments that I keep seeing again and again is hysterectomy, which as I am TTC DC2 is shitting me right up!

If it is a mild case they can treat it with the mirena and if it is pre-cancerous it will be a hysterectomy. I am thinking that this means my chances of having a DC2 are scuppered.

My DH and I have always talked about adoption, we know we could love a child that joined our family by adoption just as much as one that joined our family by birth. Is this all nature/God/fate's way of telling us we should adopt? Am I infertile?

Sorry, writing this after a bottle of wine and a month of waiting for results. It is too long and probably makes little sense. Posting here for traffic really.

I would be really grateful if anyone had any experience to share.

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quicklydecides · 12/09/2015 22:18

Well done on the baby you do have.
Use the fact that they delayed and made a mistake, to make sure that they do everything right from now on.
Be persistent and strong.
Push for clear written explanations and an earlier appointment. Insist on talking only to the consultant.
Push push push.
No it isn't a cosmic sign that you are infertile.
It's proof that sometimes doctors are rubbish.
Your job now, your mission, is to educate yourself, ask questions, insist on getting answers.
Good luck.

KanyeWestPresidentForLife · 12/09/2015 22:24

I have fertility problems. I doubt it's a cosmic sign. It just sounds to me like you like the idea of adopting. I don't think you need God to tell you, it sounds like you're moving towards the idea on your own.

KanyeWestPresidentForLife · 12/09/2015 22:26

Do you think maybe this is something you would consider anyway but this has just given you a push?

DennyDifferent · 13/09/2015 16:18

Kanye I think maybe your last comment was along the right lines. I think I need to have a clear line where if we cross it, I know its right to proceed with adoption. I know that Social Workers who might assess us will need to know that the door is firmly closed on TTC.

Thanks for the replies.

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