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WIBU with sick friend?

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SrAssumpta · 12/09/2015 12:03

Yesterday myself and a friend (mother of DDs friend) had arranged to bring the children to an activity (a life skill and something I would have been bringing DD to regardless) but the other mother found out times, did all the ringing up etc.

I got a text that morning saying she was very sick and could we leave starting until next week, so I replied asking if she needed anything, offering to take her DS that afternoon and said I'd let her know how we got on. She seemed very put out that I was still bringing DD but I can't see how it would make any difference, it's pay as you go and her DS has much more experience and has had lessons already so it's not like DD would have had any advantage by going (I'd have offered to take her DS but there's no way she'd have agreed)

She said she'd just have to go as she wanted them to start together, I said it made no difference etc but that if she was sure I'd pick them up at x time.

All went well but she really was very unwell and I'm feeling a bit awful that I didn't offer not to take DD, but she was so excited and I want her to feel comfortable going to things on her own too.

WIBU?

OP posts:
Lilaclily · 12/09/2015 12:05

She sounds a bit needy tbh
Why didn't she just stay at home and let you take the children

fuzzywuzzy · 12/09/2015 12:08

It's her issue not yours. Don't feel guilty, she realised she couldn't dictate to you when you could take your daughter and so ended up taking her DS despite feeling unwell. Her choice.

ChanandlerBongsNeighbour · 12/09/2015 12:19

Definitely NBU! Totally her choice to be a martyr and come despite being ill.

BeverlyGoldberg · 12/09/2015 12:24

She chose how she behaved. You didn't do anything wrong, you offered to take her child with you, I'd have been grateful. If she's sat there with a face on when there was no need then she's been a dick.

DoreenLethal · 12/09/2015 12:37

Next time, just say 'Oh no, get well soon' and then take your own daughter to the thing. She is being very needy. And a little unhinged to not let your daughter go to the thing without her. Very odd.

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