to ask for the most cringeworthy things you did for love in your youth?

[shellistar]

This has been inspired by listening to the radio, hearing the song in question playing and wanting to shrivel up in to a ball of shame when I recalled what I'd done with the said song. AIBU to ask you all to share your youthful love shame stories to make me feel like I'm not the only idiot in the world?

When I was 17/18 I went out with a guy the same age. He was a bad boy, bass guitarist in a cool college band and I was the totally dorky girl trying to fit in with the cool crowd.

We went out for about four months and he was awful to me but because I was "in love" I couldn't see it for what it was and just danced along to his tune. He messed me about the entire time and, this will totally out me, actually gave me nits. When he eventually ditched me he messed me about for another month and I was the typical heart broken teenager. All self respect was gone because all I wanted was to get him back and make him understand how much I loved him and how much it hurt!

So I decided that the best plan of action was to send him a copy of the All Saints single "Never Ever" (embarrassed emoticon) because I thought that as a song writer he would listen to the lyrics and understand the pain he'd caused and fall back in love with me. Hurk.

Now every time I hear that song I want to die of embarrassment. I bloody loved the All Saints as well!

-I did get him back by going out with his lovely best mate for years afterwards and making him cry when he begged for me back-

I really wish time machines were real as I'd go back and shame some sense into my teenage self!

AIBU to ask you to share your shame?

I got up early one February morning to put a Valentines Card under the windscreen wiper of the then boyfriends car, so he would see it before going to work. I was in my early twenties. It was a frosty morning and I covered the card in cling film so it didn't get wet.

Me and my teenage friend, age about 13 used to splash a bit of Brut cologne on our pillows as a boyfriend we had or would like to have wore that same aftershave.

i really gave up a part of myself when i was a teenager and in my early twenties for guys who i would not piss on now if they were on fire. looking back, it makes me sad to be honest. i since learned never to sacrifice who i really am, ever again. you can only be yourself, and if some random guy doesn't like you as you are, then you're far better off without him.

cringey stuff i did included:

pretending to like particular bands because this guy i liked did. most especially REM, who i never liked and never will. ditto the smithereens. didn't get the guy at the time, i might as well have been invisible to him.
but he didn't half make a play for me though, a few years ago, to no avail. too bad shortarse - i'm taller than you and actually you're not so hot in your 40s.

hanging out in a particular coffee shop every single Saturday afternoon because i fancied a douchebag guy who hung out there. eventually made out with him and he then dropped me like a hot snot. 20 years later, i'm now being pursued by his older brother who is unaware of my little rendezvous with his younger brother.

wearing particular clothes because i knew a certain guy liked them. i would never do that now.

i wish i could go back to 1989 and give myself a good shake.