I'm getting married to my partner next year. We have a dd together and a ds by my ex. I told ex when the wedding was and he then decided to take ds away for the week after. He asked when he would be available and I told him the earliest would be later arvo the day after the do. Then bang...he books a flight meaning 9 yr old ds has to be picked up at 9am the day after!!... He has form for this kind of stuff e.g. Attempted to refuse to allow ds to meet dd on the day she was born..the holiday will be great for ds but he has only arranged it with a kind of dual purpose to get in the way of and detract from the wedding. Mainly my worry is for ds. His mum..me.. marries again ( although he loves my partner and he's lived with him for years. .longer than his father) then the next morning he's whipped away while the rest of his family are having a post wedding gathering and his young cousin from oz and sister are able to chill and play...we will move mountains to see him before her goes but it also means we have to wake early after wedding night and leg it back to ds at my parents house and obviously he'll be shattered for first day of holidays.
My ex is hmmm somewhere between difficult and purely narcissistic..how can I handle this without a slanging match or, what I fear, him trying to ruin things more?...essay I know thanks for reading