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To be shocked that someone could be so mean-spirited?

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LoseLooseLucy · 11/09/2015 11:07

I know a woman (more my sister's friend) who has two children, one 15, the other just turned 1.

She has lived in the same house (council property) for the last 7 years.

She has been off and on again with the father of her youngest for the last 2 years, and moved him in with her.
She was then reported for benefit fraud as he worked full time. She hasn't worked since having her first child at 18.

After blaming the neighbours, and falling out with them, she has decided she can't live there anymore.
She is moving in with her boyfriend and the baby at his mother's house. Her eldest is going to stay with her grandparents.

My sister agreed to help her move, and went around last night. My sister told me that the woman has ripped a big piece from the wallpaper, in every single room, because ''why should she pay for wallpaper for someone else to move in and it all to be done for them?''

Even her daughter's room, which had been done recently?! My sister said she just told her it was very mean to do, to which the woman just laughed.

I'd have told her she was a spiteful little bitch I'm afraid, and refused to help. What makes some people so utterly fucking selfish & mean? Angry

OP posts:
Shiningdew · 11/09/2015 11:09

I think the council redecorate anyway.

SoupDragon · 11/09/2015 11:11

Meh.

SilverDragonfly1 · 11/09/2015 11:12

Zero chance of the council redecorating. New owner might get some vouchers for decorating (which won't cover the real cost). Yanbu!

SaucyJack · 11/09/2015 11:12

It's her wallpaper. She can do what she likes with it.

Lj8893 · 11/09/2015 11:12

She sounds a bit bitter but I don't think it's that mean. Councils give a decorated voucher/pack when someone moves in anyway.

Shiningdew · 11/09/2015 11:14

Yes, that's what I meant Lj. It's a bit mean spirited but I have to smile at the long list of wanton behaviour concluding in the fact that SHE DESTROYED THE WALLPAPER!

DextersMistress · 11/09/2015 11:16

The council don't decorate, they don't even put carpets down if there aren't any!

Very mean imo. I once lived abroad, and rented a house. I moved out after a couple of months as the damp was so bad the bedroom wall had water running down it. The landlady chased me down the street one day saying I'd stolen a (basic, cheap) lightbulb from the porch which I'd actually replaced with a pretty expensive anti mosquito one!

Oswin · 11/09/2015 11:16

My council goes in and strips it bare anyway. Flooring and all. No grant decorating grant either. After living in my flat for three years i still hasn't managed to pay for my bathroom or kitchen to be decorated.

LurkingHusband · 11/09/2015 11:17

Shocked ? If you're decent person, then YANBU.

Surprised ? No, sorry Sad.

So thanks to this persons actions unnecessary time, money, and energy are all going to be pissed into mankinds carbon footprint. It's a crime against the planet, certainly.

diddl · 11/09/2015 11:17

It's not that mean?

Bloody hell, I think that it's fucking awful!

It's not unusual to want to redecorate when you move to a new place, but if the wall paper wasn't ripped it might at least have been liveable with for a while iyswim.

LaContessaDiPlump · 11/09/2015 11:18

I'd have been quite shocked at the level of pettiness too op. Would it have hurt her to leave it up for the next people? What sort of person do you have to be to bitterly resent other people getting something, however small, for free? And at no cost to you?

I must remember to tear a middle strip out of all of our lovely new carpets before moving so that no other fucker gets to enjoy them.

FriendofBill · 11/09/2015 11:18

What has the stability of her relationship, age she was at first birth and other irrelevant stuff got to do with ripping wallpaper from a wall?

You sound spiteful too OP.

Lightbulbon · 11/09/2015 11:18

Nasty bitch!

Thelushinthepub · 11/09/2015 11:19

Don't worry. She's such a dick giving up a council tenancy to move in with some blokes mum I'm surprised you expect anything less

Original poster
LoseLooseLucy · 11/09/2015 11:21

So there was no accusation of 'drip feeding', FriendofBill. It was all there in my OP. Absolutely no spite from me, I assure you.

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LongHairDontCare · 11/09/2015 11:26

When we moved into our HA house, the last tenant had removed most of the lightbulbs and taken the gas card and electricity key with them! It was December too, so we had no heating or lights. There was also a hole in a bedroom wall. Some people really don't care when they are leaving a place.

OliviaM91 · 11/09/2015 11:30

I used to work for a housing association and we passed on the house to the new renters in the condition it was left (obviously we cleaned the house first), so it is mean spirited to ruin the walls in that way.

I remember one house the tenants had put up a 60 inch TV, painted and were subsequently evicted. Once we had removed their belongings it turned out that they had painted around the TV, so the blue wall had a large ugly green square 3/4 of the way across it. This was just one of many things the tenants had done to the property. The new tenant burst into tears when she saw the state of the house and was told that all painting and decorating costs were her responsibility.

paulapompom · 11/09/2015 11:30

Mean and very petty and pointless and unnecessary. Is she moving to snother council property? .

Fantasyland · 11/09/2015 11:33

The council do not redecorate anymore. When you take on a h/a or council house it is a shell no carpets , nothing in it at all and the very rare time you might get vouchers to cover materials for 1 room.

I had to leave a housing association property with carpets less than 6 months old and I was told I had to rip them up and leave the house as I found it even though I wanted to help the next person out as it is expensive carpeting a whole house.

squoosh · 11/09/2015 11:33

Ugh. She sounds like a wankspangle in many areas of her life.

Wonder how her 15 year old feels about it all.

BigbyWolf · 11/09/2015 11:33

What's more mean is her sending her 15 year old daughter to live with the grandparents while she settles in with her boyfriend and baby at his mother's house.

But Yanbu OP.

Original poster
LoseLooseLucy · 11/09/2015 11:35

She's moving in with her boyfriend's mum, paula who owns her own property. She'd have to go private renting I think, if the relationship goes tits up again.

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SaucyJack · 11/09/2015 11:39

" taken the gas card and electricity key with them!"

Uh, yeah?

Even pre-payment meters are still registered to the tenants name. You're supposed to get new key/card a register a new account when you move in.

FriendofBill · 11/09/2015 12:03

no, you can't be accused of drip feeding, but shit-stirring certainly.
Benefit fraud- tick
Council house- tick
Unemployed- tick

I'm not saying it's the right thing to do, but in the current climate it sounds gossipy and like shit stirring to me.

FriendofBill · 11/09/2015 12:04

Oh yes, and you are certainly better than her OP.

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