Friend made other plans

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It was my DDs first day at primary school today and as a treat I promised to take her to a fancy cake shop in the afternoon. I invited my friend who said she would love to come (she is known as 'auntie' to my DD and DD was really looking forward to her coming along).

Anyway, I get a text from my friend this morning saying good luck with the first day at school. I send an email back to her (we actually tend to correspond mostly via email because my phone can be very unpredictable) thanking her and also asking if she was still coming to the cake shop this afternoon.

I hadn't heard from her by about an hour before we were due there, so contact her and she says that she hadn't heard from me and had now made other plans. She said that she didn't get my email. I'm a bit about this because emails tend to not go missing in the air like texts sometimes do.

I think if it was me, I would have contacted to ask if we were still on for the cake shop etc rather than assume it was off.

I'm just quite annoyed about it.

I know this is a bit petty and I may be being massively unreasonable. In my defense, I hardly got any sleep last night, am massively pre-menstrual and am slightly emosh about the whole PFB DD starting school thing.

Yes, it is a bit petty.

Yabu it was only a casual Thing but it sounds like you're having a rough day so can be forgiven

emails tend to not go missing in the air like texts sometimes do

emails aren't a guaranteed transport protocol. (Not that anyone seems to know that).

Unless you had a response indicating the email you had sent was read, you can't be sure it got there.

Delivery and read receipts are an extension to the protocol, and not necessarily honoured by all email servers. So they're not much use either. And even if a read receipt was sent, it's only an email itself ...

I often vaguely speculate on how many arguments (or even breakups) have their roots in an unreceived text/email ? Probably enough for a Buzzfeed feature .

Sounds like bad communication on both sides. You were relying on email, which most people don't check all that often. And she didn't think to double check it was still on before arranging something else. Next time, if you have trouble texting, just call her.