Children CONSTANTLY talking andsometimes i can't handle it

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I am at home full time on mat leave, with at 4.5, 3.3 year old and a 5.5 month old. I am back to work in jan 2016. I have just told them to stop talking to me cos mummy has a headache and I want silence. I feel bad but the noise, talking, demands, request are literally NON STOP from when they get up in the morning, until (finally go to bed at about 8.30). I do take them out for walks, to the playground, but its very difficult trying to push big buggy and keep the other 2 close by, as there is a busy road all around where we live. sometimes I sit outside in the garden when they play on the green but this isn't always possible and I feel they're too young to be out alone. TV keeps them quiet but im conscious of having it on too much, so I generally try and save it for when I'm really at the end of my tether. it helps when my OH comes home in the evening, but that just splits in two so I'm still getting it. I cant go into another room cos they just follow me. AIBU to have told them to stop talking to me and have any of you done the same ?

Hi op, when mine were that age similar to yours I instituted room/cot play. Each child had to play in their room alone with their toys for 30 mins and the baby in his cot.

At 4.5 and 3,5 they are old enough to understand the rules.

Mine enjoyed the down time and so did I.

Kids are fantastic but you need your space too and it's good for them to learn that from am early age.

Kids that have been allowed to chatter constantly are often in trouble in reception class as they have never been told to wait/stop talking and listen.

Obviously it works best if they have seperate rooms.

You have my sympathy, it's sort of fogs your brain, stop you being able to think... I always feel a bit guilty when their in bed asleep and quite because I dot appreciate them enough

My dd aged 12 talks from the moment she gets up till the moment she goes to bed. What drives me around the bend is that even when she is cleaning her teeth with her toothbrush actually in her mouth, she is still talking.

I hear you all! I've had it constantly for 18 years. I adore my lovely cheeful pleasant dcs however they love to talk. Even at 19 my eldest can gibber on! He learned to speak very early on and hasn't stopped to catch breath yet. Ds2 tells me 101 jokes a day plus everything I ever wanted to know about the premier ship transfer window oh yes and his latest perchase on his game of the month. Dd loves to tell me about the soap worthy relationships of year 8 as well as how much she loves ponies and dogs and mascara. But ds3 is one on his own. He gives me a running commentary of everything going on in his head from the moment he opens his eyes until he falls asleep. He even admits to having jaw ache on occasion. I cherish my days off during the week when they're at school and dh is at work. I literally sit in silence

You should try 5. Another reason women should only take 2 weeks off from work to have babies in as I did.

I sympathise OP, I think it is just the constant relentless chatter and demands of young children that is really hard. It gets easier when they go to school. I quite often have no TV or radio on when ever I am alone in the house just to enjoy the bliss of silence.

We do have 5 but dsd bless her doesn't get a word in edge ways with my lot. Shed 17 and sweet and relatively quiet. She's always been able to entertain herself where as the others need me to join in with everything

When DH used to come in from work I would shut myself in the kitchen to make dinner for us all in SILENCE. No TV, no music, NOTHING. It was essential to my sanity!!!!!

One positive about having 4DC is that the talk at each other a lot now and I get left alone a bit more

Dd was selective mute. Now she never shuts up, part of me is thrilled she talks. The other park switches off.

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I think it's no harm to tell them that there's been enough talk for a while and they can stop following you around and find a game to play or whatever. There have to be some limits.

Despite what some posters might say, there's no shame in needing a few minutes to yourself, regardless of the issues other children may have, and actually, I think this rush to embarrass mothers who are honest about issues like this into silence is pretty poor.