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AIBU to think this a bit rude?

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Hereslookingatchoo · 08/09/2015 19:57

We had friends over for dinner recently. When we have people over we like to make it special and both put a lot of effort into the food we prepare, as I'm guessing do most people when they invite another couple over.

Our friends brought with them two bottles of wine, both half drunk, and one has been open too long and tasted vile so we (by agreement as a group) threw it away.

I felt it was a bit rude to bring half drunk bottles. They're good friends if a bit selfish at times but I felt a bit offended by it. I obviously didn't say anything but AIBU to think it's not really polite to bring ends of wine from your fridge to someone's house for dinner?

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pictish · 08/09/2015 19:59

Are they skint? Were they catastrophically rushed in getting out? Are they kooky?
I dunno. Bit weird I suppose.

wineandcheeseplease · 08/09/2015 20:00

Yea YANBU. I wouldn't dare take open wine to a dinner party.

Spadequeen · 08/09/2015 20:02

I think it really depends on the friendship. We've had some friends come over with opened bottles and thought nothing of it but there are others we would find it weird.

Equally, we have some friends we would do this with and others we wouldn't. In fact only a few weeks ago we popped over to friends with an opened bottle (and another full bottle) and they took it as a compliment that we felt able to do that and I would feel the same with them, admittedly, they were both good bottles of wine and the opened one was only opened the night before.

OneDay103 · 08/09/2015 20:05

yanbu, it's not only rude but tacky. Seriously it like bringing a half eaten dessert.

IloveGTA5 · 08/09/2015 20:06

Have you invited them over before? If so, what did they bring? If this 'bringing half drunk bottles of wine' was a one-off, I'd make a joke out of it next time you invite them over "See you Saturday and don't bring your empties!"

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Hereslookingatchoo · 08/09/2015 20:07

They are a bit kooky, not skint though. I just felt a bit 'meh' after we'd put a lot of effort in. It wasn't good wine and there was in total about half a bottle left after we threw the other. Means we provided dinner and wine in the end and I think that's what bugged me.

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Hereslookingatchoo · 08/09/2015 20:08

Umm...not sure they brought anything last time. I just remember the wife not eating my dessert as it was fattening Grin

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Stokes · 08/09/2015 20:08

Did they know they were coming for a dinner party rather than popping over for some dinner, iykwim?

One of our friends would often bring a bottle he has open when we're doing a casual pizza and a movie job, we'd probably do likewise. For a fancier night we'd all do nice wine and flowers / buns etc. They maybe just thought it was a more casual occasion than you did.

sooperdooper · 08/09/2015 20:22

Meh if I invited good friends over I wouldn't care, I assume they're not really that close friends of yours? It all sounds a bit forced tbh, it's not something I'd even care about - if someone was a good enough friend for me to cook them dinner I wouldn't care what they did or didn't bring

WhereYouLeftIt · 08/09/2015 20:44

"I felt it was a bit rude to bring half drunk bottles."
It is VERY rude. I'd have been offended.

Corygal · 08/09/2015 20:46

That's tight. And rude as well.

Floggingmolly · 08/09/2015 20:51

What's casual got to do with it? You don't bring half eaten / drunk leftovers with you when you're invited out to dinner, full stop. It's incredibly rude.

JustMeOverHere · 08/09/2015 20:53

We had friends over for my birthday years ago and my thenH got the champers (cava) out for a birthday toast, when they rummaged in their bag and produced a almost empty sticky bottle of mead which they insisted was far better for a birthday toast than fizz. It wasn't. He then spent the evening slagging off the wine we had bought and telling us his wine merchant could cut us a deal if we mentioned his name.
Oddly enough the wine merchant didn't know anyone called dickfuck. Grin

JustMeOverHere · 08/09/2015 20:55

Sorry, I agree it's incredibly rude to take opened wine to a dinner party.

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Hereslookingatchoo · 08/09/2015 20:59

To be honest that's my view too - casual or not, surely if you know someone is cooking you a meal you don't take take half empty bottles, one of which had been open (it transpired) for two weeks. It's just not something I would do or have done or has been done before.

If I took biscuits or chocolates round to someone but ate half of them before I imagine it would be deemed tacky, so what's the difference with wine.

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Elledouble · 08/09/2015 21:07

I might take an opened bottle as well as a new bottle if I had one that needed drinking up but was currently ok (haha, who am I kidding - leftover wine?!) but otherwise no. VERY rude!

Allbymyselfagain · 08/09/2015 21:39

YANBU at all OP. If one was opened so long it was off they probably saved it bring because they didn't like it themselves.

Next time invite me. I'll bring lots of unopened wine AND eat seconds of your fattening dessert!

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