To give up on ex and him paying towards DD

[SamVJ888]

Posting here for traffic more than anything as I genuinely don't know what to do for the best.
Ex has always been poor at paying for DD, I have letters from the CSA saying he owes me £6k plus from years ago which I know I'll never see, last time he paid anything recently was August 2014 and that was £150. He lost his job earlier this year (his fault entirely but not going into that) so I haven't bothered with asking for anything but he's been working since June and "promised" he would pay from August. He was also due to pay towards some tests DD needs (she's disabled and the tests on the nhs have a long waiting list). He hasn't paid a penny and ignored my calls to the point of me telling him to fuck of and leave us alone (via txt). He hasn't seen DD for months which isn't unusual as he's always been crap and she doesn't care anymore.

Part of me thinks fuck him we're better off without him the other thinks why should I have to do everything and I should contact the csa again. He has other children (3 in total, one of which I didn't know about until I contacted the csa before and I'm sure his mother doesn't know about) so I don't think any money I get from the csa would be substantial. Should I just forget it and get on with our life?

No don't give up, why make it easier for him to be a deadbeat? I know you shouldn't have to chase for money but do not give him a get out of paying card.

I know how you feel OP. The number of posters on here in a similar situation is disturbing.

This is far from unusual it seems - if he is getting JSA you are entitled to a fiver a week (!)

He's working now, don't know exactly what he earns and he's technically self employed so I'm sure he'd be economical with the true figure but I'd guess it's at least £30k a year. I'd love to tell his mum (who thinks the sun shines out of his arse) that she has another grandchild just to cause some trouble but she's got cancer and I'm not that much of a bitch (unfortunately )