to worry so much?

[prettybutclumpy]

Hello all, some perspective on this would be gratefully received!

My DH and DS were talking about DS (9) sprinting the 100m along the pavement on the next street, as our garden isn't long enough. They were excited about this. I mentioned to DH that if DS was going to run fast, he'd better watch/listen out for cars coming out of driveways. The street is quite quiet, but with lots of driveways with poor visibility, and most people reverse out.

This caused an almighty row, as DH informed me that he thinks I worry too much about too many little things, that any accident wouldn't be serious as the car would be going too slowly, and more woundingly that I "suck the joy out of life" for him and the DCs.

I should add that I have had PND and periods off work with stress and depression since, and I do find myself quite anxious at times.

WIBU? Please be honest, but gentle (or is this the wrong board to ask for that?!)

thanks for all your comments! Especially chompybot. Good to know how you deal with your anxiety with your DP. I think DP was being a bit cavalier with our DSs safety, but I also see I was overanxious. Things are better between us now.

pretty you could be describing my street and there is no way my children would be sprinting down the road for the exact reason you mention. Both dh and I have drilled into them that they are literally invisible to cars because they are too small for drivers to see. The road is full of pensioners so in reality there tends not to be a lot of people pulling out onto the road at work time on the way to school but still we emphasise it every single day how dangerous it could be.

yanbu op. very nasty comment from your h re sucking the joy---- and lumping your son with him against you. Also unpleasant pp casimir-who could not respond to your ? re driveways so chose to jump on the bandwagon with h and attack you personally.

YANBU I am forever telling my children to be careful of this - seems I suck the joy out of life too, by wanting them to live to be adults . Good luck with the pnd

Not rtft but show your arse of a dh this:

www.rospa.com/campaigns-fundraising/current/driveway/

That link reveals its possible for a child to be killed by a car that's not even on! Simply handbrake slipped off.

Rare maybe but it does happen and rarity is no comfort when it's your child.

I agree there must be somewhere else more suitable.