to be annoyed when other people finish your sentence for you

[katemiddletonsothermum]

ARGH! So, you're speaking. And someone else butts in and talks over you. And they finish their sentence. But it's a different ending to the way you were going to finish the sentence so the conversation takes off in a whole different direction.

Or they're talking... and you answer their question. But they talk over you. So your answer is a) unheard b) invalidated c) why did you bother to even speak?

It annoys the hell out of me. Do these people even know they're doing it? I had a headteacher who was like that. Typical scenario:

"Hello, I have a problem with my son. He seems to be..."

"A high performing dyslexic. Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah"

thinks.... No. Bullied.

FFS. I don't think I'm a shrinking violet. Are these people so egotistical that they think no-one else's opinion matter? And how can people talk without taking a breath so that no one else can interject? FFS.

My MIL does this but it's slightly different in that she'll end the sentence the way I would, so she talks along with me. It's not egotistical but it's FUCKING ANNOYING. I suspect she's not even aware she's doing it, and she does it to show that she's listening/agreeing with me but OHMYGOD it drives me insane.

A school mum does this. I used to let her finish, but the other day I actually had something important to say (seriously, it was in the public interest!) and she started to talk over me, taking the conversation off into a a different direction etc) so I just carried on and talked over her and she looked really cross! Pot Kettle Black, I thought. AIBU?

Oh god I do this sometimes. I realise I am doing it. I know how annoying it must be. Inside I am kicking myself going SHUT UP! But the only way I can process some conversations is to verbalise it as it goes along, it's as if my mind doesn't make the connection till I say it.

I also work things out by talking them through to someone else. It's like my mouth speaking is making my brain think.

I'm very very sorry.

Hah yes my dp does this all the time. He thinks it's sweet in a 'finishing each other's sentences' kind of way whereas I find it annoying and disrespectful and tell him so. I'm a big baby and refuse to tell him what I was going to say whenever he does it!
He does try not to and he does it with everyone and quite obviously gets it from his dad, still infuriating though.

RJ me too! I'm trying so hard not to. Is there a support group?
What I don't understand is that I end up saying exactly the same thing as the first person at the end of their sentence. Am I leading people to use the words I would?
Ugh it's so wrong! I need to stop. It honestly happens because I'm trying to agree with/support that person but in reality I know I need to shut the hell up.
Sorry everyone.

I haaaaaaaaaate it when people do this, most annoying time is when one guy I know tries to guess the punchline to an anecdote.

Storyteller: "and the after the other guy left
Interrupter:"you fell over?!"
Storyteller: No, I got up and
Interrupter: spilled your drink!
Me: GRRRRRRR SHUT UP let him finish his story!!!!!

I do this and I apologise as soon as I do it.
For me it feels like something not quite meeting vocal and brain type of thing.
I'm dyslexic and really struggle not to do it.
People who talk slowly are my worst nightmare, I think they've finished what they are saying and they've just stopped to draw breath.
I know it's so rude and it bothers me a lot in social situations.

Worst of worst is when The Interrupter gets the punchline right and The Storyteller just kind of lanely says "yeah... "

Yanbu, but I don't half get the urge to do it to get MIL through her interminable, oft -repeated anecdotes more quickly.

Aaarrgghh, I do this too, finishing peoples' sentences.

I really don't mean to. As I start speaking I even think 'you're speaking over them, stop!', but I can't seem to stop myself.

As a pp says above, it's like I need to speak out loud in order to think something, I find it really hard to think without speaking out loud. Having a baby to chat to all day has Been a God send as it means I don't have to talk to myself all day! For example I could never sit down and think about something, I need to speak.

So I interrupt people a lot, particularly if I'm excited and interested by what they are saying and it is generating lots of thoughts in my head, and if they are saying something I agree with I will often find myself finishing their sentence, rather than just thinking 'I think the same'. When I try to stop myself speaking I get all twitchy and can't sit still or concentrate.

I was worried it makes me look like a dick... having read this thread I know that it does Must find a way to stop.

I had a friend who did this. I started saying "I'm sorry the middle of my sentence interrupted the start of yours [hardstare]" which would make her really pissy with me but TBH I didn't care at that point.

Option 1: Keep talking until they shut up.
Option 2: 'Sorry, I was talking'
Option 3:met them finish then 'As I was saying...'

Let/met

I just say 'No...' And then finish my sentence. I don't think all interruption is rude, sometimes it just shows that the person is listening. What I hate, though, is when you've just said something relevant and have taken your correct turn in the conversation and they cut you off with 'Anyway...' As if you'd interrupted them.

Ego

I went from severe stutter and other aural problems as a child to verbal diarrhea, as some said. Now it includes talking over people, interrupting, the timing is always wrong
I know how you feel, people would always guess wrongly.
At school I was asked where my dad worked I couldn't pronounce my r's and was trying to say Rolls Royce and the teacher was shouting Woolworths? at me.
I would love to learn more about this and maybe get some help.

We see some friends fairly regularly and they both do this. They're lovely but me and DH come away feeling a bit exhausted. We have to say now "that's not was I was going to say" etc.

Please meet us sufferers half way and choose number 2 and give us the chance to apologise. In my case I hate being antisocial and think people must just think I'm rude and ill mannered.
Sometimes I stop and apologise myself as they haven't stopped.
The breath drawers are the worst because you can both start at the same time, it's still their bag because it's the same conversation, not moved on.
I process what some people are saying very quickly and talk as I'm processing, trying to add timing to this is too much sometimes.

DH likes to start telling me things As... He's... Eating... so I sit there, gagged by pissed off politeness, while he slowly utters some story (which would have taken long enough if he hadn't been eating). Really, really annoying!

I do occasionally try to hurry him along with prompts, so he can skip over that bit and resume a little further on after he's swallowed. However, I think mine are probably acceptable interruptions, as he's actually interrupted his own bloody self!

My dh talks really slowly and is the thoughtful type. He can't get a word in edgeways.
I speak and think later.

Now trying. To remember the name of the ronni e barker/two ronnies sketch that sums this up perfectly.

I wouldn't mind if the things they were interrupting with were the conclusion of the sentence I was going to say - or if it was remotely connected. But... no... they interrupt with a complete red herring and then take over the conversation. I find it rude.

But to the posters who apologised for doing it - I don't think you can be interrupting too badly as you seem to be at least conscious that you're doing it.

Cue this

Me: "It's late, I'm going to... [bed]"
Interrupter: "St Ives. I met a man going to St Ives. He had seven wives. Is that even legal?... but she doesn't pause for breath so you hear all about St bloody Ives and the icecream and the seagulls and blahdeblahdeblah and all you want to do is go to bed!!"

AIBU to be annoyed when other people finish your sentence for you

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There is a guy at work who says 'yes', 'yes', 'yes', every other second as you try to tell him something.

I want to drop kick him in the face.

I know it isn't what you asked but it's reminded me and I have to offload.

Thanks.

Yanbu