DP says I'm having an emotional affair...with mumsnet

[AtSea1979]

I found out DP was messaging another woman, an old friend he hadn't seen in ages. He had told her private things, then likened it to me on MN!

Amen

Op, you sound strong and an excellent mum. I am shit at advice here, but many other posters will be better.

You can't move in with MN. He can with this woman if chooses to.

He was looking for an excuse to move on.

Well I've had about two hours sleep and have to face day two of new job.
Right now I'm just focusing on getting DC ready and off to school without snapping at them because I'm tired and stressed.

You can't move in with MN shame. That would be FUN.

I'm so sorry about what else you found OP. As with so many of these threads it just shows that your instincts were right. Sounds like you did amazingly well yesterday with work and the DC. You are superwoman.

What support do you have IRL? Can anyone help you over the weekend? Much as probably nice not to be at work, it will also probably mean too much time to think.

We're all here for hand holding, swearing and

Not really got anyone in RL I'd tell. Would just rather keep my head down and get on with things.
But a bit on MN hand holding would be good for the next few days while I readjust to being on my own.
Just running out of milk last night and not being able to pop out and get some was difficult.
Lots of planning and to do lists I think.

It is hard to start with. I am single mum (over 5 years) and I know what you mean by having to change routines.
Protect your rights. Go and see a solicitor. Ex may be back and wanting to take charge.

Didn't even realise you have children.

He is a twat of the highest order to walk out like this on them too.

I agree. Get legal advice ASAP.

Having the children alone does require more planning, but you don't have to be perfect. Remember that. And do ask for help from people. Don't try to be too strong.