To think SIL is an arse?

[TheHouseOnTheLane]

She's so frigging up herself! Tonight she said "I was really surprised when I heard you'd given your kids McDonalds."

Yes....right...because you're perfect! My DC have McDonalds on average about 4 times a year....VERY rarely...if we're driving and there's not much else to choose from or if they go to a party where that's the main food.

This is the woman who gives her child a "healthy diet" when the Grandparents are looking after him so they are not allowed to offer him a tiny scoop of ice-cream....but when she's in charge he chows biscuits and cheap sausages by the dozen.

Not that there's anything wrong with a few biscuits and cheap sausages now and then...but why act like the Mother of Health Food when it suits you?

DH maintains it wasn't meant rudely....he says it's just her way....I say she's an arse.

YANBU - it's a very arse-ish thing to say.

What did she say when you mentioned that her child eats biscuits and cheap sausages by the dozen?

Phew! Just checking it wasn't me.

On a more helpful note, the best thing really is to ignore it, smile serenely and know that you are doing what is right for your children.

Ps she does sound like a bit of an arse, yes.

Worra she's so snippy and short that I just said "It's very rare." with a frown on my face. All I could come up with!

Oh right, in that case I'd let it go.

She sounds like a bit of a twat.

www.telegraph.co.uk/news/health/news/7359902/McDonalds-Chicken-McNuggets-branded-healthy-by-Weight-Watchers.html

Tell her to get fucked.

I think it's mean that the grandparents can't give him little treats. When I have mine I can basically give them whatever I want, and that includes a trip to McDonalds if I want to. I'd hate to feel restricted by rules and regs with my grandkids.

I am miserable about it all because I wanted to be mates with her but she's so weird that it's not possible. I actually hate spending time with her...she's so bossy and odd.

Like...DH was holding her son..because her son had asked to be picked up and DH was playing a game and SIL comes and says "Right, come to me now."

Her son was in the middle of laughing hysterically at what DH was doing...but she came and plucked him away for no reason.

DH and SIL have no problems getting on at all...he loves her..and her son. Why would she do that?

She did the same to me later on....I was playing stickers with her son and my DD and SIL appeared, collected her son and said "Come on, there's a film on in there."

Erm do you think she meant it as in you so rarely give them MCDs that she was surprised when you did? Thats how it read to me.

Mellow me too! It's controlling and odd in a not nice way if you ask me. Like she's denying them a tiny pleasure...giving him a bloody spoon of icecream! PILS are not feeders! They wouldn;t be giving him mars bars and cola all day.

Surly no...she meant it as in she was surprised we'd EVER give them that

Your child, your choice. It's got fuck all to do with her?
I wouldn't stress over one comment though Op

Does she feel judged by you, and therefore pointing out a perceived transgression?

Just ignore her.

Meh. DS has a McDonalds weekly when my parents look after him while a I'm at work.

Far worse things he could be eating...

Shite, I want a McDonalds now.

MIL and DH often take the DCs to McDonalds when they're with them, I'm just grateful they're being fed.

I genuinely don't see people's disgust at fast-food when they're willing to still shovel crisps and sweets into their DCs; if you're going to be snooty about one type of junk food, cut it all out, don't jump on the McDonalds soap box without being realistic about the rest of what they eat.

Eh, it sounds like you're judging her as hard as she's judging you so I wouldn't worry about it too much.

Nothing wrong with a McDonalds, my three had one every Saturday when they were younger .

It sounds like you really don't like each other, do you give off snotty vibes to her, do you think?

YABU because now I want a sausage and egg Mcmuffin.

It actually sounds like she has a tremendous inferiority complex, pretending to believe in healthy eating while not practicing it and removing her child from other people when he is enjoying himself.

She does sound very insecure of her parenting and herself through this. Don't stop picking her up on criticisms ... but don't be defensive - shrug off the mcdonalds as "they deserve the odd treat / have to let them put these things in balance or they'll be there 24/7 as teens ho! ho!"
Perhaps an example of it's OK to bend the rules from time to time is ehat she needs

I had this from my BiL.

"oh, I would never EVER let my dd eat macD..." As I was considering a macPitstop as they (sis and BiL) had buggered about so much earlier in the day my ds had eaten nothing as we were waiting on their imminent arrival to go out

I derive comfort from the fact that actually come the teen years, their dd will fill her gullet with everything banned, whereas my ds will take it not leave it.

Ignore, your sil sounds like she has issues of some kind.

Sandiego it's possible....I'm English and she is Aussie....I could be coming across as snooty just by dint of my accent. Which is not posh or anything but is probably posh sounding to an Aussie.

Hissy Exactly...her son is tiny still so she's not had the issue of a long journey and whiney kids who need to eat something fast...sometimes, outside infuences conspire to put parents in the McHorror arena and I just give in! She will learn! It's her PFB.

I'm always astonished by peoples misconceptions of what's healthy and what isn't. I too know people who'd die before taking them to McDonald's but regularly give them sugary kids cereals, toast with chocolate spread, biscuits and cakes (homemade doesn't make them healthy) and rarely give them fruit n veg