To throw a complete fucking tantrum?

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I'm in pain. I have been for over a year. I have had three surgeries this year to try and fix things. The last one was just over a week ago. Yet I am still in the same place I was right at the beginning. I am sick of taking painkillers. Sick of walking around with heat pads stuck to my abdomen so that I can function. Sick of having a stupid, bastarding uterus. I've been reasonably tolerant of the situation, but something has switched. I want to scream and throw things.

Wouldn't blame you for a second.

Next step is hysterectomy. I can't wait.

I had pain and heavy bleeding. They found a large polyp. Polyp removed. No difference in pain or bleeding. Had a laparoscopy. They found some endometriosis. Removed it. Less bleeding, same pain. They also found I had varicosed veins around my uterus. This is apparently irrelevant. Just had an endometrial ablation. Early days, but still bleeding, still in pain. I live on paracetamol, ibuprofen and when it's unbearable, codeine. I use a tens machine to try and be comfortable. I get intense pain at ovulation, before and during my period. Sometimes at other random times. I feel pressure and discomfort in my abdomen more or less constantly. IT'S SHIT

I have been feeling mildly irritated that I have been bleeding on and off for two weeks - thank you for putting this into perspective....

OP YANBU

I'm having a hysterectomy soon. I didn't even have the other ops, decided to go straight for the only sure solution. Even at my age (45) the doctors were reluctant to agree but I have very good reasons for wanting the whole lot gone. Can't wait to get my life back (and to be able to wear clothes that put any sort of pressure on the abdomen. Can't even wear trousers with a fixed waistband for the past 2 years or I am in pain and feeling sick all day)

I had horrendous periods for almost 30 years. I had endometrial ablation last september and after about 9 months things really settled down. If it hadn't i was going to go for a hysterectomy.

I hated my stupid uterus. But i can just about live with it now.

Just had a hysterectomy,op. I had the ablation in January I think but they found some dodgy stuff so needed hysterectomy. Bled for a good few weeks after ablation and deep period type pain but it did improve.
Hysterectomy recovery has been ok. 8 or 9 weeks in am back at work part time and able to drive etc. Pain much better and I'm sure will be completely healed in next month or so. I'm in my 40s and won't be having birth children. I guess you won't either after the ablation so I hope you can get the op you need soon and start to recover properly.

OP, I had a hysterectomy a few years ago when I was 42, had everything taken.

It was the best health decision I've ever made.

I've heard that so often, Diego. I've jumped through every hoop. Now I just want it over with.

My Mum had fibroids and endo and all sorts of problems. She had various procedures and bog all helped. During her last D&C, they found some suspicious stuff and decided that she'd just have a hysterectomy.

You know what, we didn't realise how crap it was making things until after the op. She was anaemic, depressed, so fucking bored with bleeding and pain, tired and it ruled her life. She was 45 iirc. The hysterectomy was done quickly and simply while she was awake and she went home the next morning. Within weeks she was a new woman. She looked healthy, she was interested in life again and she wasn't just existing.

I really hope the ablation works a bit and if not, fear not, the hysterectomy can turn your life around.

In the meantime, have they referred you to a pain clinic? My friend has gynae problems and was trying to manage with ibuprofen, paracetamol and codeine and it was causing all sorts of problems (codeine headaches, upset stomachs, dependency) and not actually controlling the ruddy pain. The pain clinic put her on something completely different, delivered by patch and it worked.

I had multiple gynae issues and getting rid of the whole caboosh was the best thing for me.

Some consultants are reluctant to give a hysterectomy, don't be afraid to switch to another if you need to.

Try to get referral for chronic pain team. Opiates don't allow me to function so I'm now on a combination of alternatives which make things bearable. Paracetamol and particularly ibuprofen are not a good long term fix

Thanks everyone for allowing the tantrum. Have had to take codeine tonight so I can sleep. Back to the consultant in 7 weeks. I think I'll just ask for a hysterectomy, and cry at him if he says no.

Another poster who recommends hysterectomy - had mine at 35 never looked back
The turning point for me wasn't just the pain it was when I had such a sudden flood of bleeding I filled my new shoes and had to squelch out of the supermarket leaving a red trail of bloody puddles in my wake

Oh Jace

My Mum's defining moment was in the fish and chip shop. She had to leave before her order was ready and squelch back to the car and sit on a towel.

Isn't it all horrific. Endo here but thankfully mirena coil saved my sanity. Poor dd has terribly heavy periods that are almost a complete copy if my early years. It makes me so angry that it still takes forever to get a solution. It's really not good enough is it?

Hope you are feeling a bit better and a bit less tantrum'y.

I'm not suprised you are very pissed of with it all. It must be so frustrating.

There's always going to be someone somewhere who has things a million times worse but I think we are all allowed a tantrum once in a while and you have good reason.

Hope everything gets sorted sooner rather than later

sorry you're having such a hard time

is this one of those situations that should have been solved with a hysterectomy from the start? I hope you get a solution that works for you.

PS when I say "should have" I'm wondering if the doctor refused a request. They can be bizarre like that.

My friend had her hysterectomy at 35, she missed our wedding because of it.

It was such a shock seeing her 6 weeks after the operation, we (and she) had no idea how bad her illness (and it is an illness imo) had made her. She got her colour back, she was smiling, laughing! She rarely laughed as the pressure hurt her so much. She had energy, a sense of fun that we all realised she hadnt had in years.

I agree that you need to push for this. I wish you a speedy recovery

Oh and my friend was refused a hysterectomy by her NHS consultant, a man. She asked for another he too refused. In the end she used her work based health insurance and her female consultant was sadly not at all shocked that she had been refused although she was disgusted that she had been and performed the surgery 3 weeks later. According to her, many many women are not taken seriously over the pain they suffer by male gynae's and she gets a lot of her patients from women who are so desperate that they have sold their homes to pay for private care to get the treatment they need :(

Another case of "if men had periods....."