Ex / friend and New gf. how to stay friends

[Seasidelove28]

In short. I had a fling, very short with a bloke I knew. It wasn't there. The chemistry.
But we got on great as friends. Stayed friends for 4/5 years with no sex but then a drunken fumble.
Was massively akward, didn't talk for mths. He then got a gf & we went back to friends, never to talk about the drunken fumble.
Fast 4ward 2 years and his gf now doesn't want/like him having anything to do with me
Then 6mths later he confesses his undying love (to me)

Can this ever go bk to just friends?? Shall I try and be friends? Shall I cut contact??
What about his gf?

What a sad situation, to lose a friend like that You did the right thing though. What was his reaction to your text?

I'll try and keep it short to the main parts of messages. First "I'll leave my gf so we can be friends" I replied that his status didn't matter, we still can't be friends. Next "I know you don't feel the same as me, it doesn't matter id rather have you as a friend than not in my life at all" I sent another back saying the situation was difficult enough, my decision is final and not to make it worse :/

You've said all you need to say now :( just try to disengage.

Oh god! It sounds like he really values your friendship, way above his gf, but now that you know he has feelings that go beyond friendship you can never un-know it. It would always be there - the elephant in the room.

It's a really tough one. You're both losing a good friend, and he's probably kicking himself for telling you how he feels. Unrequited love is awful, whichever side of it you're on!

He hasn't replied so hope that's that now

I know, I feel so bad, for myself. And for him, that's before I even think about his poor gf

Honestly you have done the best for him even though it's hard on both of you. Your being a great friend by disconnecting and letting him move on - even though he doesn't want to. Stick to your guns, your doing the best for him.

it's awful to say but if you stay in his life as a friend, any relationship he has doesn't stand a chance of working

Tbh The more wine I drink and think about it I'm really mad at him, for being so fake for so long. Starting to rethink every bit of relationship advice he's given me, when he's just hid his secret agenda.