And the above is unreasonable. But let me explain.
My parents, in particular my father, were well educated and intelligent and worked in high earning jobs. Largely because of my mothers parents, we stayed in the town she had grown up in - a very poor town and area - and it suffered badly in the late 1980s and 1990s.
I understand the sociology of the area far better now, as an adult. But just the same, I hated it as a child and this was primarily due to being badly bullied at school. Mostly this was "just" verbal but it did sometimes become physical too. I was frightened all the time - of being hit but also of being humiliated, had dreadful anxiety and altogether I have pretty bad memories of my secondary school years.
Towards the end of year 10 my mum died; I didn't really go in much after that and my dad then paid for me to attend an independent sixth form. He then died and that was that. This is all some time ago as I'm now 33.
I never planned to go back but I met someone and lost my heart and now I'm back, not in the same town but the same area. And yesterday I am talking to someone who I knew from school and she passes comment on a little girl 'not wearing pink, what's her mum thinking!' on school girls 'asking' to be raped (short skirts) and on two little boys who were asking to be bullied as they didn't have gel in their hair or designer coats.
Am I just projecting? Because I'm newly pregnant (due April) and I just don't want my child exposed to small minds and pathetic attitudes and have the shit kicked out of him/her because their school bag offended someone or something pathetic like that?