Recurring nightmares! How can I get rid of it?

[Fizzielove]

I've been having a recurring nightmare which is very upsetting! My DB died when I was 21 and I've been have a dream where he was never dead. He faked his death with the help of the ICU, moved to London and loved the life of Reilly! Leaving me to deal with elderly parents/ grandparents and all the work and funerals. In the dream he then comes back and can't understand what he did wrong which obviously starts a huge argument! I then wake up and for a split second believe he's alive. Very upsetting!

Does anyone have any advice how to stop a recurring dream like this? Does anyone else get dreams that recur like this? Just feel so upset every time I have this.

That sounds really upsetting. Is there something that has happened recently that has brought it to the fore now?

Oh Fizzie, that must be so upsetting for you.
I experienced a time when I had a recurring nightmare , even now it will come back when I'm upset or feeling insecure.
I'm not sure what the answer is.
Are you concerned about aging parents at the present time?
Did you dB pass away recently ?
I know you were 21 . it just have been a terrible shock.
I would be tempted to speak to him , either out loud or in your head, tell him about your worries , tell him you wish he was here to share the burdens. Sadness isn't the only emotion when we loss someone. Anger is a very understandable thing to feel.
I would hope that your conversation might draw a line under it in a way.

Probably the death of my dad and Granda last month!

That would explain it. You've had a lot to deal with, so it's not surprising that things come back again. You have had several deaths to deal with in your life, do you think some bereavement counselling would help?

Oh my goodness, well no wonder you are experiencing this, what a terrible time you've been having.
It's part of the grieving process but that's no comfort.
If I were you I speak to my gp about this.

Could you write him a letter and burn it? Say all the things you feel but would never say to anyone else.

It's a horrible thing to find no peace in sleep.

I am sorry for the losses you have suffered.

I have no idea if this would help you. I have poor quality sleep and I find a magnesium supplement really helps. You can buy tablets or a spray which can either be rubbed on your skin or sprayed in your mouth.

I hope you find some peace and rest.