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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To think that the year 6 leavers party doesn't need to be discussed the first week of term.

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CwtchesAndCuddles1 · 05/09/2015 09:22

Received a badly written text yesterday from the school account (but written by one of the mums) arranging a meeting in the local pub to discuss the year 6 leavers party! Does this seem like madness or is it me?

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Coolforthesummer · 05/09/2015 09:24

Oh god I would hate that.

Let them all get on with it and turn up on the day.

InimitableJeeves · 05/09/2015 09:25

Yes, it sounds like madness. With a year to mull over it, it's going to spiral out of control with stretch limos, people wanting to hire theme parks for the day, you name it; and there will be horrendous feuds all year with different factions lining up against each other in favour of different activities and restaurants. The difficulty is knowing whether to attend to try to keep a degree of control, or keep well out of it.

Buttercup27 · 05/09/2015 09:26

Not really. I already have every date in my school diary for the rest of the year, including leavers assembly, sports day, Easter service a d Christmas etc.
Depending on what gets decided, fundraising might be needed and entertainment booked etc. Unfortunately when lots of people are involved planning anything takes a really long time.

Ledkr · 05/09/2015 09:27

Oh how awful!
This would truly irritate me.

Spartans · 05/09/2015 09:28

Eh? Year 6 leavers party, that the parents organise over the course of a year?

Our school let year 6 do some fundraiaers and took them on a day out if their choosing. The school made up the difference between what they raised and what they needed.

It was booked in May and they did it in July. So glad dds school did it this way.

Yanbu....it's ridiculous.

Birdsgottafly · 05/09/2015 09:32

Do you have to raise funds?

Bag packing is very lucrative, but the best stores get booked up, at least six months in advance.

People are busy, so I personally have never seen an issue with planning ahead.

AsTimeGoesBy · 05/09/2015 09:33

I would agree, but there was an occasion in my DCs school where one mum took it upon herself to organise one and only invited half the class (her DC's friends and DCs of her friends). It caused a lot of upset and I know the class reps for the class which her younger DC is in are thinking they will have to make an early start to pre-empt any repetition. When I did it for my DC we started planning around Feb half term, so people had the date in their diaries before Easter as the very end of summer term is a busy time for a lot of people.

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CwtchesAndCuddles1 · 05/09/2015 09:34

I've no idea why this has come via the school - it's not a PTA event, it's one parent taking it upon herself to organise things with a meeting in the pub!! There is a new head - I suspect this mother has hoodwinked the head and that the head is going to get a few unhappy parents and governors contacting her on Monday morning!!

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AsTimeGoesBy · 05/09/2015 09:38

And yes, I'm keen to get dates in my diary early too, our school is notorious for only giving out dates at short notice (eg Sports Day, INSET days).

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CwtchesAndCuddles1 · 05/09/2015 09:38

There is usually a leavers disco held in school during the last week of term, no big fuss and no fundraising required, years 5 and 6 attend. No major planning required and no big costs to cover other than a few hot dogs, drinks, and the disco.

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AsTimeGoesBy · 05/09/2015 09:41

Why would you complain to the head about this? Presumably there's no obligation to go to the meeting, it will just be to gauge interest in helping out and throw a few ideas around. Yes it will have cost a few pounds to use the text service but if the head has agreed there's no harm done.

OddlyLogical · 05/09/2015 09:48

I think it's a good idea to get a date and venue chosen well in advance. People are booking holidays now for next summer.
Some of the fundraising needs a decent amount of planning.

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CwtchesAndCuddles1 · 05/09/2015 09:59

Because the message has been issued on the school text account and reflects very badly on the school (spelling, grammar).

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EnthusiasmDisturbed · 05/09/2015 09:59

Obviously she has too much time on her hands

I felt the same when it was suggested at new school year meeting that we get planning for Christmas. It was the evening of the first day ffs other things to think about than which mummies will be elves this year. I do not have time for all this neither do many of the other parents I let those that have and want to get involved deal with it

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CwtchesAndCuddles1 · 05/09/2015 10:04

No venue required - every year for the last 40 ( I was a pupil) there has a been a leavers disco during the last week of term.
People need to know the date now to plan holidays - really? It's term time so that shouldn't be an issue!

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TheHouseOnTheLane · 05/09/2015 10:12

OP she's one of those who wants a "prom" and "big cars"

They always try to get in first with their embarrassing ideas. You have to go to the meeting and talk her down.

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CwtchesAndCuddles1 · 05/09/2015 10:31

If she wants to turn it into a three ring circus then she can carry on, it's very unlikely that many other parents will turn up and I've got better things to worry about. If it was a PTA meeting I would go but I'm staying well out of this!

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specialsubject · 05/09/2015 10:36

you fundraise for a kid's party?

now I know why I always refuse bag packers.

TheHouseOnTheLane · 05/09/2015 10:46

Cwtches you're right of course...it's so annoying though! The way someone like this just HAS to upset the apple cart and change what already works.

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