To prepare and buy absolutely nothing for this baby?

[Sweetcharlotterose]

I'm nearly 19 weeks pregnant so I've still got plenty of time I know but I've had a bad feeling about this pregnancy ever since we found out. It's a miracle pregnancy in that previous fertility treatment had failed and we'd given up hope.

We had a gender scan privately last week, the sonographer went quiet and then said that the cord is velamentous so not fixed properly into the placenta. She didn't really say anything else so I consulted Dr Google when we got home. Basically the cord can come away at any time, particularly during labour so they recommend an early c section. However even before that the cord is more likely to detach or the baby can compress it cutting off oxygen and nutrients. It's associated with a range of birth abnormalities and fetal death and stillbirth.
It can range in severity and I don't know how bad mine is but I have an appointment next week with the consultant obstetrician to find out.

I feel like I'm just waiting for my baby to die. I don't want to talk about the pregnancy with anyone, I went back to work today after the summer holidays and now I'm showing everyone was saying congratulations and I was thinking 'there probably won't be a baby at the end of this.'

With ds we had everything ready by about 30 weeks (luckily as he came early at 35+4) but I don't feel I can do anything for this baby. I don't want to prepare for nothing and have the sorrow of coming home to an empty nursery. Dh says we need to get some stuff like nappies, steriliser etc just in case but I just can't.

Aibu?

I can understand your thinking and wishing you best of luck for you and your baby.

I had this in my first pregnancy. However it did not show up on any of the scans! I had to have a c section for other reasons and it only became apparent as DS was being taken out. In my case what it meant was there were actually 2 full size placentas attached by the cord. God knows what would have happened if I had gone into labour naturally but as it is, DS is/was absolutely fine. The fact that you already know is a huge plus so you can be monitored and have the section ASAP. Don't despair, it could actually be fine. So sorry you are going through this.

Best of luck, fingers firmly crossed for you xxx

You can get everything you need very quickly - I didn't buy anything for DS2 and DD as lots of medical issues and MCs - was fine in the end but you can get things at the last minute when you need them.

Fingers crossed for you - it feels miserable