Aibu to let sil annoy me

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Jesus I could start a whole website on how annoying my sil is but she is who she is and I largely ignore her when she's being an idiot. However atm she keeps going on rants about how being pregnant (first pregnancy straight forward) hasn't stopped her exercising and people like me use it as an excuse to let people slave over them.
I had my youngest son prematurely 7 months ago. I was on bed rest as waters broke at 24 weeks. I was hardly going to be exercising.
She also said she's lose weight the healthy way after having a baby (I didn't have any baby weight to loose but was incredibly I'll for all of the 6 months I was pregnant).
Good for her to do it and be able to do it but I really get annoyed when she rants away. So Aibu to get annoyed?

I think you need a broken record response of "I'm very pleased you're having a straightforward pregnancy. Not everyone is so fortunate. As you know mine was not but there's really no point talking about it now". And maybe distance yourself.

YANBU to be annoyed. I'll never understand why people can't understand that pregnancy is different for everybody, and I say that as somebody who had a very easy pregnancy.

Just ignore and try to see her as little as is possible. Hope everything's going well for you and your baby now.

'Lucky you' with an eye-roll should do it - if you like you can add a bit about how exercise wasn't really your priority what with being concerned about your baby being at risk while you were pregnant, but some people need a sledgehammer to stop them making idiots of themselves. She's clearly a twat - caring what she says and thinks will just bring you down to her level, so try to avoid it, and her, wherever possible!

Yanbu

Can you reverse it? Just gush in agreement about clever she is to have chosen an easy pregnancy and to have ordered an easy baby in advance meaning she can be back to the gym 3 days after birth.

Be as sincere as possible, no sarcasm, and it'll totally throw her.

I would just ignore. No point reasoning with some people.

Yeah, try to ignore her. Just because she's having a comfortable, straightforward pregnancy now there's no guarantee it'll stay that way. Or that she'll have a baby who'll allow her gym visits. Idiots who lack empathy soon learn when the tables are turned.

'That's nice'.

and repeat.

In your shoes I'd love to ask her whether it might just be possible that, if she were put on bed rest after her waters have broken prematurely, that would maybe stop her exercising?

Ask her what exercises she would have recommended for you when you were on total bed rest.

Then tell her to shut the fuck up.

YANBU my SIL is a cow as well but she tweets digs rather than says anything to me it must drive her mad that I don't respond. I'd either ignore or roll my eyes and look bored.

Currently resting during a high risk pregnancy..

God this would drive me nuts.

The one earth mother type who's tried the "oh but you should try for a natural birth, you owe it to your baby" shit got shot down with "well, I could, but I hear bleeding to death is a bit of a bore."

It's lovely when people have straightforward pregnancies - I wish we all did, but your SIL would last about two minutes in our house before she got firmly put down. How is she so bloody unaware??

I have to listen to this shit all the time 'ooh I could never have a section' 'ooh I had no pain relief'. 'Ohh cs not like giving birth'. Had a planned section after first child died after a traumatic delivery.

Ignore, ignore, ignore. Focus on what you have got, presumably some sense of tact and empathy!

I also find launching into a tedious monologue about maternal obstetric fistula rates in developing countries is effective. Or puerperal fever.

Of course we all want natural straightforward births. Unfortunately, we are not 'designed to give birth.' We are an uneasy evolutionary compromise between big brained babies and the narrow pelvises that make us such effective bipeds.

Very sorry to hear that owlina I do hope you give the idiots in question both barrels of your wrath when you hear such foolishness.

YANBU she sounds like a thick skinned insensitive pain in the behind

Ds2 is doing so well now after a worrying first two months of his life. I would love nothing more than to stay away but unfortunately she lIves with pil less than 2 mins away and constantly pops in to drive me bananas. I'm liking some of the suggestions I try to not let her get to me but some days I just want to push her out my front door and tell her to f**k right off

Why is it so hard for some people to understand that we are all different ffs! We all have differing experiences of pg and childbirth and we cant control all the variables. Until we can there is NO POINT in comparing.

So yeah, I'd just tell her to fuck off.

Oh my god: I'm nearly eight months pregnant and thankfully lucky enough to feel well enough to exercise five times a week, and I still think she's being an utter wanker.

I don't know how you can do much more than smile beatifically and say "Every pregnancy is different" but I'm secretly hoping she has a really hard time losing all of the baby weight and I really feel for you.

Don't feel the need to justify yourself OP, you have no cause to. Let her witter on, the silly cow. Wheel out the heavy sarcasm if necessary "My goodness, you're so clever. How fabulous" (slow handclap)

She will either fail spectacularly to meet her own ridiculous demands, or run herself ragged trying to fulfil them. You, on the other hand, had a hell of a time and are out the other side with your baby. Be proud of yourself and ignore the self aggrandising ramblings of a bit of an eejit.

Oh, she's one of those 'it was a certain way for me so it must be like that for everyone' people

Bully for her, she's having such an easy pregnancy. I absolutely sailed though my first pregnancy. Taking regular exercise classes right up to six and a half months, no nausea, no problems at all. I considered myself extremely lucky.

I'm now 12 weeks gone with my second and need a lie down after taking my two year old out for a walk, or after doing the weekly shop, or anything remotely like exercising. Every pregnancy is different and smug people will hopefully get everything that's coming to them.

I am not sure if this thread is about giving birth at all but I must say whilst I find people like the above mentioned SIL annoying I also find people brushing off natural straightforward childbirths annoying.

I had a natural, relatively straightforward birth and no pain relief but you know what it was still very traumatic and very painful. My own SIL had a nightmare of a birth that resulted in emcs and all I ever hear is how tough she had it and I was lucky. Giving birth is dramatic for any woman no matter how long or slow and I really don't like people labelling those who had it 'easy'

That's really sad. My experience was of people without children complaining about me when I was pregnant or as a mum (how boring I'd become, etc), I didn't expect it from people who'd been through the same experience - that's horrible.

Agree with the advice you've been give (eye rolls, sarcasm, etc).

But also, your DC will grow, and all her "easy-ness" will disappear at some point, whether it be sleepless nights, or late development, or problems socialising, or lack of achievement or a rebellious teen.

The world will right itself.

Revenge is a dish best served cold!

Red expat I guess it is hard to empathise if you are thick. Which this woman obviously is.