would this wind you up?

[Dieu]

Morning all. Had a fairly trivial but annoying situation with my ex husband this morning. Long story, but he regularly sees our children round my place, as it's better/easier for them, as he lives further away. I'm not particularly happy about it, but will live with it until we divorce later in the year, and can formalise other access arrangements.
Anyway, children and I recently got THE most gorgeous pup. He's lovely, but like most pups do, will do the odd pee on the floor. I have now taken away his puppy pads (his use of them was hit or miss anyway!), and am taking him outdoors to do his business.
This morning when ex was round, he did a pee on the floor even after being taken out by myself. Ex husband waited until I was back in the room, and pointed out the pee, for me to clean up. He says every time 'your dog has peed'. Then he asked (sarcastically no doubt) when he was going to be housetrained.
I replied that I wasn't his only owner (although I do the bulk of it all of course , and that the children are able to clean up after him too. Our 14 year old is very good but was out at the time, and he seemed shocked that I would ask our 9 year old to clean it up
Am I being unreasonable in thinking that if ex is round our place, it wouldn't kill him to muck in and grab a piece of kitchen roll himself?
To be fair, he made it clear from the outset that he didn't want anything to do with our dog (walking him, looking after him, etc). This is absolutely fair enough, but the situation of him smugly pointing out the pee and not doing anything about it, is winding me up.
AIBU? Thanks.

I'm thinking the OP is saying it's not her puppy but her DC's puppy.

As the XP is the DC's father, then its not unreasonable to expect him to contribute to helping his DC care for their puppy, in the same way she helps her DC care for the puppy.

But you are getting divorced for a reason OP. So it's no surprise he will decline to be helpful and considerate to you, even though you are being very helpful and considerate to him by allowing him to spend so much time in your home.

If he isn't going to behave nicely to you in your own home, if he's not interested in helping his own children care for their pet, then stop facilitating his access to the DC - let him sort that out himself. Surely you can sort out access before you are divorced?

YABU - your dog, your mess, you clean it. im surprised you didn't ask him to get the hoover out then give the bathroom a quick once over while he was at it :)

I asked whether 9 was an appropriate age to Be wiping up piss, I didn't say they weren't capable.
As previously mentioned, we don't have animals so no experience but wouldn't make my 9 year old clean up accidents made by my 3 year old.
Her and her bigger sister are capable of many things but not sure about clearing up fully after animals have pissed on your carpet.

If I were ops ex I may have expressed surprise that the 9 year old was doing it. BECAUSE I don't know what age they start! I never started because I never had animals.

Is it hard to get your head around?!

Why on earth would you ex husband clean up after your dog?

It's not his dog, not his responsibility. He is there for the children, not a dog.

Actually I think people are answering a slightly different question to the one you asked.

Would it wind you up? YANBU - of course it would wind most people up, he's being unhelpful.

Is it reasonable to expect him to wipe the pee up? YABU & this is the Q most posters have answered.

Good luck with the divorce and spending less time in the company of this unhelpful bloke!

To be honest, if I was alone in anyone's house with anyone's dog and it peed on the carpet I would try and find something to start mopping it up with. So actually it would annoy me. I mean, who sits and just looks at anything like that without trying to help a bit?

Not his circus, not his monkeys and all that - but what happened to simply doing the nice thing?

Wow, I can see the majority think I am BU! Do you know what though, sometimes it can be really useful to gain a sense of perspective from others, and to realise that I could indeed be in the wrong! So it's no bad thing, and thanks again everyone for your replies. This may even assist in getting me out of my mood with the ex much sooner
Thanks go also to those folks who tried to see it from my original point of view. I felt like a bit of a skivvy in everyone else's eyes and he does sometimes undermine me in front of the children (but you of course weren't to know this), so perhaps that's why I was a bit sensitive.
I guess I was just of the opinion that helpfulness and consideration work both ways, you know. I host his access (not all the time, it's getting better gradually) and he cleans up my puppy piss!

Well done for taking it with good grace op. I would have been annoyed too (despite knowing I was being unreasonable!).

Wishing you a speedy divorce with the minimum of hassle.

Many thanks PD - appreciate that

If I were ops ex I may have expressed surprise that the 9 year old was doing it. BECAUSE I don't know what age they start! I never started because I never had animals.

You learn something new every day ninja

Someone graciously accepting that they are being unreasonable?! Madness! Where's the drip feed and flouncing?!

Disappointed op you so reasonable and being unreasonable!!!. For the record i thought yanbu to be cross (your ds should have sorted) but Yabu to expect ex to sort. Hopefully a speedy divorce and can we see a photo of your cute puppy x

If it's a drip feed you're after, I'll start by saying that ex had got pup so excited in a game of rough and tumble (so the fun stuff is ok!), that's why he peed on the floor in the first place!
Re photo, I will happily oblige when teenager gets home from school. She has hundreds on her phone!

YANBU..what is a few seconds out of his precious life to grab some kitchen roll and mop it up?

It's your dog. You clean it up.

The op has already said she was being unreasonable happy

If he is the only adult in the house, and he's been left in charge of kids who he thinks are too young to clean up dog wee, then he has to clean it up his fucking self, obviously. Leaving it there is gross and the kids could slip in it. But you should have agreed this before leaving him in the house with them all. If he refused, you can either take the dog with you, or say 'well you're not staying in the house then, you take the out where you can look after somewhere without a pile of wee'!

TRexingInAsda where did the OP say she was out of the house? I got the impression she was just out of the room.