Aibu re. neighbour with chickenpox?

[mikado1]

I am fully prepared to be told I am being unreasonable and I am really just a bit about this but am interested in others' opinions.

So ds plays in communal, gated front garden with one or two little neighbours. I usually sit on wall or bench watching. He loves it and it gives him a much needed break fromssitting in while I bf ds2 round the clock. It's a break for me too.

Anyway, one of the little boys has cp since Monday. My ds has just started montessori for the first time and with the new baby etc I am hoping he settles ok with what is another big change, obvs also great for me to have a few hours alone with baby. I just have fingers crossed that he didn't get it from neighbour last weekaas it would be a bit of a disaster a. Having a sick and fed up child at home kn top of just having a toddler and newborn which I am finding challenging enough and b. He would miss this important settle-in time in montessori and have to start all over but can do nothing only wait and see.

Then on Monday and everyday since I see neighbour is out playing as usual though he is still contagious. So I now can't send ds out which is a real pita. I know it's an illness that many encourage to get it over with but what with current situation it couldn't be easier worse timing. Aibu to think he should stay in until he's no longer contagious or is it ok that my ds, who is hungry for some outdoor play, has to be kept in instead?

YANBU. Dt2 nearly died from chicken pox at 18 months. Was rushed into hospital in the middle of the night. Not funny.

If you'd come on here to say that your child had chicken pox and was contagious and you were letting him play in the communal garden so that everyone else had to keep their child in or expose them to chicken pox then everyone would say you were being completely unreasonable.
Of course a contagious child should be kept away from other children. YANBU

Agree with birds snoop etc. Depending on the area taking chicken pox child to a playground or somewhere whilst avoiding others might not be possible. My friends ds spent a lot of time at mine through boredom of 4 walls when he had it, as my older dd was immune. I think really you need to speak to the neighbour and negotiate times so they aren't both out together. Tbh though your child has already been exposed enough that chances are he's more likely to have caught it prior to spots than after they appear.

I know. ..He has been similarly exposed twice before.

Of course YANBU. CP is contagious and it's up to the child's parents to keep him away from all public spaces including a shared garden (the clue is in the 'shared' bit). I kept my two in while they had CP, it was a minor hassle but that's life. DD managed to get CP for the one week BIL was visiting from abroad so it was a shame she couldn't do anything with him outside the house but again that's what you have to do when your kids get a contagious disease.

He dodged it! No spots two weeks on!

Hate to be the bearer of bad news but I think the incubation period can be up to three weeks. Hope he's still clear for you

I thought incubation was between 17 and 21 days

I think it's normally 8-21 days window.

Yes, dh got it from our girls almost 3 weeks to the day!

Sorry to dissapoint OP.
Dd2 caught CP from dd1 3 weeks after her spots had all completely dissapeared....

Nooooooo! I am sure a pp said 2 weeks! But at least he will be fairly well settled into montessori if happens now which was main concern. Thanks for heads up! though I am cursing the info

Deranged to keep a contagious child away from others who haven't had it, including a newborn?

Fwiw I will keep mine away if he's got it, think it's only fair.

IamlovedbyG -Deranged? Seriously?! That sounds either inconsiderate or ill informed to me.

Chicken pox can be serious for children with compromised immune systems, pregnant women and probably others too.

My immune-compromised child was really unwell with CP when he caught it at 17 months. There were a good few nights of him sleeping in stretches of a maximum of 20 mins because he was so uncomfortable, despite treating the symptoms as much as the doctor recommended. Some of his pox sites got infected too. His entire nappy area was one joined together chicken pox. It was truly miserable for him and took nearly a month for him to fully recover.

I kept both my children at home when they had it (one after another) -it's basic consideration for other people.

I think 14 days is the standard incubation period, but it can range from 11-21 days. And within households, the infection rate is around 97% (according to the paediatrician that treated our son), so it's really contagious.

What, forever?

I had this crazy notion that I lived in a community and that I thought about other people and they did the same. That means staying in for the really short time your child has a contagious infectious illness, not sending them to school or nursery within 24 hours of a vomiting bug... I hadn't realised that basic consideration was something others considered deranged until now!

Clearly. I'm off to tell various friends that they're silly and deranged too.

You've misunderstood lovedbyg