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To miss having a baby

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greenribbon · 03/09/2015 09:47

I have had them but they're all grown up. Last night I had a dream, I can't really remember what it was about but I had a baby and I felt this strong love for this baby, I don't even know if it was a boy or a girl but I remember having the baby all wrapped up in a soft blanket and holding it. I was so disappointed when I woke up. I often think back to my baby days and miss those times. AIBU to be like this when I have had babies. I miss just having a baby.

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rogueantimatter · 04/09/2015 00:29

I'm 47 and I sometimes think I'd love to have another baby.

I won't, but I get you. If I'd been more confident I'd have had a bigger family.

Ed1tY0urPr0f1le · 04/09/2015 01:00

I know what you mean. Mine are almost grown up too.

I don't want any more babies (they morph into toddlers far too quickly for my liking!) but I do miss having one. Babies are so lovely Grin

About once a year or so, I have that sort of dream. The last one I had, I dreamed I'd found a baby on the doorstep and decided to keep him Shock I could almost feel him in my arms when I woke up. Gutted!

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greenribbon · 04/09/2015 09:38

Oh thanks for replying, my little post looked very lonely all on its own Grin .
I guess that broody feeling never leaves you perhaps.

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MarkRuffaloCrumble · 04/09/2015 09:58

I never felt broody before my DCs were born, they were all a kind of happy accident ("well, it wouldn't be a disaster if we did have another one").

Now I am 40 and with new DP and I know that I won't have any more I've felt for the first time that longing to hold a baby - not just any one, but mine and his. I have 3 DCs and he has 2, all now school age and so the practicalities of taking that big step back, not to mention the complications of who would live where, mean that it's just not going to happen.

But despite my head knowing it's the right thing, my heart/hormones often have a real pang of sadness that we will never share that bond and I will never again feel that comforting weight of a baby sleeping on my chest. I'm sure once we get to grandkids it will be lovely and all, but I've never really seen the appeal of other people's babies (including DNs), so I'm not sure how I'll feel about them!

SaucyJack · 04/09/2015 10:01

Just wait for the GC now. All the fun, without any of the hassle.

LadySheherazade · 04/09/2015 10:33

I would so love another baby. My youngest is almost 4, and the reality is, unless we win the lottery and can move to a bigger house, there will be no more babies Sad.

I'll admit, I'm hugely broody and I'm only 32 so I could have another one (and DH would love more babies!) but we just don't have the room.

cailindana · 04/09/2015 10:43

Cuddling a peaceful baby is the most wonderful thing ever. I hate hate hate the baby stage but I still get a longing to snuggle a tiny baby. There is just nothing better.

OwlDoll · 04/09/2015 10:54

I would love another baby but unfortunately I don't want any more children. I love my children but I miss them being all snuggly and warm and the special atmosphere that seems be in a house with a newborn baby in it.

schokolade · 04/09/2015 11:19

Joining in... my DD is 18 months, and the last couple of months I can't focus on anything. Right now I'm supposed to be working, deadlines coming out of my ears, but all I can think about is having a baby. I've never been the broody type before, and actually didn't like the reality of a tiny baby. Wtf is wrong with me?! Hormones, I hope...

StarlingMurmuration · 04/09/2015 12:36

Have mine. You can give him back when he's about four or five.

StarlingMurmuration · 04/09/2015 12:38

He's pretty cute but I do find the baby stage hard work.

To miss having a baby
FattyNinjaOwl · 04/09/2015 12:50

I've got two babies. Granted one is nearly 2, but she's adorable she's also a cocky little madam who refused to eat her lunch and told me to get choc choc
The other is 5 weeks old tomorrow. Unfortunately you won't get the tiny newborn baby cuddles. He's 12 lb 12 so the size of a three month old! (He was 10lb 10 at birth)

FattyNinjaOwl · 04/09/2015 12:51

Any takers? He's killing my back because he won't let me put him down, and the other has gone back to licking things my leg

CherylTunt · 04/09/2015 13:04

The other day I was in the supermarket and saw a woman holding a baby (slightly older, maybe 8 months or so) and I got this really sudden, powerful memory of what it felt like to hold a baby like that. Not something I spend a lot of time dwelling on, so it was quite a jolt. My youngest is 7 and for various very compelling reasons there won't be any more for us. I am 36 so technically possible, but...nope.

I have a lot of conflicted feelings about it that I generally repress.

Rarity08 · 04/09/2015 13:13

Oh I love babies. GC#1 is due in 3 weeks, looking forward to lots of cuddles Smile

LightningOnlyStrikesOnce · 04/09/2015 14:27

I've been lucky with my toddlers on the tantrum front, so I'm going to miss not having one of those around. They have such lovely little legs, they're so cuddly, their speech attempts are charmingly funny, and they don't answer you back, whinge, and say 'no' to everything yet. Sigh.

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