To feel smug that I looked great today...

[Bollicks]

... when I unexpectedly bumped into my ex and his new girlfriend today?

He was is a complete bastard who cheated on me a couple of times; was always playing games; is really unfoundedly smug; has some very dirty bodily habits; and generally makes me skin crawl.

We had a messy break-up about six years ago and he said some awful things about me and later about my new partner. Last time I saw him was about a year after we broke up - I was in a bad place and I could tell that he took great pleasure in the fact I looked like shit. He's very shallow- all about looks.

Today I looked fantastic (if I do say so myself) because I feel fantastic with life in general. I was also secretly very happy that his new girlfriend is really rather fat given how much he used to berate me for putting on weight and being a 'tubby arse' I was 9 stone at my heaviest with him

Does this make me a bad person?

YANBU. Nice one! I love it when things like that happen

YAdefNBU!! Back of the net!

Sounds as if you're still quite invested. Nonetheless you are not being unreasonable for feeling smug that you looked great today.

I once bumped into a twat of an ex on a night out. I had lost about 3 stone wearing a tight dress, feeling great & his jaw nearly dropped. Best feeling ever!
He kept apologising to me for how he behaved (& tried to buy me drinks) but I took great pleasure in telling him I was happy with my new boyfriend

Revs Hi five for you!! And well done on your weight loss.

She's probably put on weight as a result of being with him; unless she was having an affair with him while he was with you, I think you're being unkind to her.

YDNBU. What women wouldn't feel smug. Glad he's seen what he has let go. And I hope he regrets it. But it's his loss.
It's making me think about the pussy cat dolls song. Don't cha, wish your girlfriend was hot like me.

Imperial I know I am being unkind to her and I do feel bad for that. But I couldn't help it

Ilive That's exactly the tune I was thinking of all the way home!

Um I think you sound cruel calling his girlfriend fat. You should feel sorry for her, not judging the way she looks :( Anyway you split 6 years ago so how do you know he hasn't changed?

Some of these comments are rude "Don't cha wish your girlfriend was hot like me" The girlfriend the innocent one here remember.

Rebecca. How do you know the girl friend is the innocent one. Now the op. I am sure doesd not wish this women any bad, but I highly doubt she wishes her any good at the same time, and quite frankly why should she. Women do rival against each other. It's the way the world is.
It seems like op has had her confidence turned upside down, of course she's going to wallow.
I'll hold my hands up. I would. (Wallow) I make no bones about it.