To take the furniture that I paid for?

[MagersfonteinLugg]

Split from DH and moved into a private rented house.
Family home ( if you could call it that) was large and spacious so new house much smaller.
I have taken only the stuff that I paid for, which TBF is a lot. It includes the DCs beds, bedding,freezer, fridge freezer, sofas, dining table and chairs, bookcases, TV stands, pictures, etc.
DH now complaining that he is having to buy new stuff to put back in his (family home) as I have 'stolen' it all.
I have the basics whilst he has all the luxuries that he paid for such as plasma tvs and the house itself.
AIBU in taking this stuff? TBH its all a bit tatty and its not like he can't afford to replace it. He has the house FGS what more does he want?

Thing is, in his eyes, as I have not paid towards the mortgage then I shouldnt be able to waltz off with his house, or any of it.
Its not me that sees the marriage purely in monetary terms, its him. He only placed value on money, so me looking after our children enabled him to go to work , play sport at the weekends, go out in the evening socialising, etc.
I totally see the contribution I have made to the last 15 years. But, and this is a big but, his main argument is that, when we met, we married and I moved into his house, so the last 2 houses we lived in have both been in his name only, even after marriage.
I have moved myself and my 3 DCs out of a lovely 4 bed house into a 3 bed rented terrace, and I feel more at peace than I have done for 15 years. My DCs hatre me of course, because I have taken them away from their 24 hr internet, plasma tvs, huge separate bedrooms, etc. but I know that moving out was for the best.
I just want a quiet life and I know that if I chase after him he will tell all and sundry that Im nothing but a gold digging leech who wants to steal all his money (because thats how he saw me in the marriage, never mind out of it).
I just wanted to take my furniture but even that was too much in his eyes.

What an awful man. I can see why you want to just walk away. But in the future you may well regret not fighting for your fair share. His opinions don't particularly matter, it is the law that matters here.

How he "sees things" is irrelevant. What he "thinks you are entitled to" is neither here nor there legally - he doesn't make the laws. So what if he tells everyone that you are a gold digger? Do you think any right-thinking person will believe his shite (clue: they won't).

If your children miss their luxuries, you need to be careful that he doesn't try and lure them to live with him so they can access them. Likewise, not good if he gets to shower them with presents whilst you struggle to put a roof over there heads and food on the table. He sounds like the sort to do this to spite you. Your best defense is to improve your standard of living by accessing what you are owed.

Barbarian is right, what your husband thinks is irrelevant (unless you go along with it). It's quite common for men to think that the fact they bought the house means it belongs to them, and that the sahm ex wife is owed nothing. Fortunately, the courts do not take this view, and will assess your contribution to family life over the years and make a financial settlement based on this. Please see a lawyer, it's a very stressful time I'm sure, but in te long run you will regret letting him steal property that is yours.

Get legal advice because I'm sure they'll be able to help you put a monetary value on being a SAHM.

Bloody hell OP, please, please listen to what everyone is telling you on here.

It doesn't matter a jot how he sees things. What matters is how the law sees things and you are entitled to your fair share. Fight him tooth and nail. It sounds like he's done a right number on you.

Christ I hope this is a wind up. It is 2015, right? OP please listen to these people. He days of women walking away from marriages with nothing because they think everything belongs to their husband are long gone.

You don't have to fight him for anything. Just fill in the forms and let the lawyers do the work. You never have to speak to him again if you don't want to. Do everything by email.

It's your children who are ultimately going to suffer if he walks away with everything.

I Read this thinking its a wind up....no one can be that stupid really.

If you are telling the truth....good Lord! see a solicitor.

Please, take what you are due from him. Not only child support you are most likely also owed alimony if you were a SAHM. Don't let him bully you into taking less. Let your lawyer loose now that you are out. He is an ass but that doesn't mean you are not due 50% of marital assets no matter what he says. You may not have contributed $$$ but you cared for the house and children. Also, at least in Canada, and I suspect it's similar there, since he has "paid" your way he is most likely responsible for alimony. Don't let him get away with it!!!

It doesn't matter what he thinks. He doesn't make the law. You are entitled to more than what you are settling for.