Not to go to this family event
HeiressesGiltnor · 01/09/2015 20:03
In a few weeks time we have a family event. I have agreed to go but am having second thoughts. Said event is a few hours in a pub. It's a nice excuse to get together but it's not something as big as a wedding.
Reasons I don't want to go :
It would take us 2.5/3 hours to get there. Originally I thought it would be fine. We have a DS who's 1.5. I figured he'd sleep most of the way if we left at nap time. However we've recently done a few longer journeys with him and after 1 hour he's just desperate to get out the car. The journeys have, frankly, been fairly horrific and stressful. It doesn't seem fair to make him sit in the car for 5 hours in one day just for a 4 hour event at a local pub. Not fun for us either when he gets so cross and just screams for hours.
I could go without him and leave him with DH. Some of my family members will be there. But I work full time 5 days a week in a stressful job with long hours. My weekends with my DS are so so precious. I am reluctant to miss out on our small window of family time.
We are fairly close to said side of our family, but I'll be honest, they don't make much effort with us. We keep in touch over Facebook, but in DS's short life, the've seen him once when he was around 3 months old. I've invited them to visit/stay several times but they haven't shown an interest in coming to see us. Over the summer, the person who is throwing the event went away on holiday and ended up staying for a few nights only 10 miles away! Even then they didn't suggest meeting up for the day.
So AIBU not to go. I know I'm not making an effort and I probably should, but then if they don't with me, I kind of think lets just all get on with what we actually want to do!
They would definitely be annoyed if I didn't go though..
LindyHemming · 01/09/2015 20:04
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ButEmilylovedhim · 01/09/2015 20:46
It's not worth it. The journey will upset and tire out your ds and you will have the consequences of that for days and nights to come (voice of experience, it was not fun). They weren't particularly bothered to see you when it would have been minimal hassle for them, so why should you put yourself and your child out to see them. Go and do these occasions when he's older and better able to cope, if you want to.
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