Flower girls/bridesmaids order!

[Faye12345]

Hello an issue has cropped up and help needed! My sister is getting married in two weeks and we're due to have the rehearsal tomorrow. However she's panicking about order! I'm chief bridesmaid and two nieces are flower girls (4 and7). How do we work this? Do we go before the bride and I deposit the children with the mums at the top or do we go after ? Her worry about going after is that the kids might run infront of her and they may be too fast for me to stop them!

I have a 9 year old flower girl and a 2 year old page boy to deal with (as MOH). 9 yr old is mine, and she was flowergirl at another wedding this summer - so she will be in charge of the page boy walking together (PB is coming with Bride, not waiting with Groom as happened at last wedding - and this time is actually ON the Groom's side!). We haven't yet met the pageboy (day before at the venue).

Bridesmaid (adult) next, then me, then Bride, is what I am expecting.

But I will just do as I am told at the rehearsal.

Are you meant to lock eyes?

Most weddings I have been to have had the bridesmaids behind, but the petal scattering thing.

sorry, petal scattering thing wouldn't work.

I'm pretty sure mine were behind but can't remember now, the whole day was a blur.

At a nephews wedding this year the very confident 3 year old flower girl went first, scattering rose petals on her way. She ran out of petals half way down the aisle, tipped up her basket, stopped in her tracks and said "oh dear ive got a problem now haven't I"
It was so cute! Everyone was in stitches.

I agree with the bride first. Bridesmaids are the brides attendants, they should be behind. When on earth did people start the bridesmaids first thing? I've honestly never seen it in real life, and I've been to plenty of weddings in the last few years. Is it (dare I say) a class thing?

If its a church wedding the bride should go first.

This is mainly because churches tend to be small and less spacious at the altar so there would be some tricky manourvering around the bride and groom to get bridemaids to their seats.

If its in a big hotel or outdoors, then whatever you want.

I personally think bride first is better as this is the traditional way.

My first wedding,when the world was still flat the matron of Honor,4 bridesmaids and 5 paige boys all walked behind me.A couple of them were being little buggers when they were getting ready,but once it was time to leave and at the church and the reception they were all little angels bless them.The youngest was only 2 as well.They were all my nephews and nieces.

Second wedding DH walked in with our oldest sons 15 and 13 his bestmen either side of him then our flower girl DD3 and Ring bearer DS9 walked down the aisle first,then my MOH (my best friend)and my bridesmaid DD8 walked down the aisle together and then me and my Dad,who second time round of giving me away still cried bless him

We were extremly proud of all the children but especially DD3 and DS9 they're both autistic and our DD is also physically disabled and only started walking that year.

Wow I have never come across this bridesmaids going first thing; every wedding I have ever been to the bride went first.

Mind you I don't think I have been to a wedding since 1996 so maybe this is another one of those things that have become more American over time.

I thought I was being very unusual sending my bridesmaids first. I hate attention so wanted all eyes to be on the flower girls and my MOH, not me. I was scared of walking down the aisle and falling /crying /wetting myself.... Ideally I agree, bridesmaids follow the bride tho

Yes, we had a venue with a very short aisle which was great as walking up it was one of the parts I was least looking forward to and wanted over quickly.