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No, DH, I don't want to DO ANYTHING today.

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OxfordCommoner · 31/08/2015 11:53

Dh has taken the week off work so it's not like today is a precious day off. It's the last week if the holidays, they don't go back until next Monday.

I'm a sahm, three children, and this holidays has been a long slog, especially with the bad weather. I was looking forward to having him around so that I could have a bit of a break from the constant 'what are we doing today Mum'. But he's doing it too! He's taken ds2 upstairs to play lego but he's spent all weekend trying to chivvy me into 'doing things', from playing Risk with him to going on a family dog walk in the rain.

Aibu to think he can just get on with being all activity driven and I can just veg this week? I don't want to have to be constantly doing something and if he wants to he can crack on and do it?

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OxfordCommoner · 31/08/2015 12:03

Surely it's the law that a rainy bank holiday weekend is spent mainly slobbing in pjs?

Can I kill him? Aibu?

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Welshmaenad · 31/08/2015 12:11


I'm unwell at the moment and having a flare up. I was hoping DH would be taking the DC to a local tent show so I could sleep but he's chivvying me out of bed and trying to make me come.

We should do a Strangers in a Train and kill each other's.


Welshmaenad · 31/08/2015 12:12

Come to the tent show.

Not...the other kind of come.


coffeeisnectar · 31/08/2015 12:17

I know how you feel. If we aren't doing something we've wasted a day apparently. Three kids still in pjs, none of them want to get dressed and go out in the rain. It's just not worth the grief of trying to get them out to do something they don't want to do when we are sitting in peace and quiet while they are upstairs playing quietly (for the first time in weeks).


Trills · 31/08/2015 12:17

I am still in my dressing gown, pottering about drinking coffee and MNing and making scones.

Sorry, that doesn't help, but you can use it as "proof" that everyone does not have to DO THINGS all the time.


Oldraver · 31/08/2015 12:18

You need to come down with something and take to your bed Grin


Trills · 31/08/2015 12:19

A wasted day is a day where you spend a lot of time saying what are we going to do? and faffing and end up not doing anything.

A day where you decide we are staying home on purpose is not wasted, you are doing exactly what you said you would do.


youngestisapsycho · 31/08/2015 12:21

I've just stuck the Spongebob movie on in living room for kids, and I'm laying in bed watching Modern family and playing on iPad.... DH is at work. Was gonna have day out and lunch with the kids..... Bloody rain.


OxfordCommoner · 31/08/2015 13:10

We've just ordered a pizza. I win.

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Mummatron3000 · 31/08/2015 13:54

I really wanted a lazy morning in our PJs after hosting DS's 3rd birthday party at home yesterday ... but received text from FIL saying he'd be along just after 8! Argh. So a rush to get kids/self dressed & breakfast things cleared before he arrived. I shouldn't really complain, he's doing a lot of work in our garden for us, but I really just wanted some lazing before taking DS to preschool after lunch!


OwlinaTree · 31/08/2015 15:31

Bit mean if he's taken the week off work to not do stuff as a family, but assuming you are not planning nothing for the whole week he's off, YANBU.


Lilaclily · 31/08/2015 15:33

I think if he's taken the week off to spend as a family you will face to go too. Don't think it would be nice for him to use his leave to parent alone all week !
But today he should just chill


Lilaclily · 31/08/2015 15:34

have not face


cocobean2805 · 31/08/2015 15:37

We were going to go out today. Then somebody bit half my dh's ear off last night, so he's still asleep and I'm crocheting and watching rubbish awesome TV.

Yanbu to want to chill out and enjoy a day at home without the expectation of doing something.


DinosaursRoar · 31/08/2015 15:41

no no no, you are doing it all wrong! the DCs and DH need to do something - and while you might need to organise it, you then don't participate.

tomorrow, plan an activity your DH can do with the DCs alone - pack them up, get them ready with him, wave them off with a smile, return to sofa. Send them to a film, or a local national trust place, pack a picnic for them and send them out, soft play, museum visit, anything, just not with you. Enjoy the silence.


FatalFemme · 31/08/2015 15:44

Coco, you can't just leave something like that hanging there! Bit half his ear off?!!


Moregravyplease · 31/08/2015 15:55

We are spending this week on the Xbox and clearing out the loft which I think is a great balance between worthiness and enjoying ourselves.

So how many hours was he planning on playing Risk for because the last time I played it took 4 hours.


cocobean2805 · 31/08/2015 15:56

Sorry femme yep, bit half his ear off. The top part, its grim! He's a doorman, end of the night, got jumped from behind from what I can gather and the guy literally chowed down on his ear! He's had it glued back on, I've not seen it, he didn't even wake me up, just rang my Dad to go help him in the hospital because he hadn't taken his wallet and ended to pay for parking! First clue I had was when I got up and he was downstairs on the couch covered in crusty blood with a big dressing in his head. He didn't want to wake me up and worry me. (Sorry for the slight threadjack OP!). I've got pictures, didn't know whether to start a new thread about it, its quite grotty, not sure how many people would want to see a bloody grotty ear klaxon!


SonjasSister · 31/08/2015 16:08

Mmm thanks for the offer cocobean but I vote for please don't share the image! Instead just pass on lots of sympathy your poor DH! And OP, great news about the Pizza. Hey ho I am at my desk and not mumsnetting at all

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