people not turning up on time

[Faye12345]

Aibu? Festival at local park today a few mates going. One mate texted to say she would be there from 1. Knew some others werent coming until later ie 3pm. However got to park for 1ish and after 10 mins phoned her - shes half an hour away having a drink! She said she thought i was meeting other friends there and she would finish drink and come to park. At 2pm shes still not there and neither are the others who to be fair were coming later so ive come home. AIBU to.not expect to wait on my own for an.hour after someone has given me a time to meet?

[BoskyCat]

I had a friend like this, always at least 30mins late, usually more, always very full of how important and busy she was and had so much to fit in to explain it.

The one time I was 5 minutes - FIVE minutes late she stormed off before I arrived (so after 2 or 3 mins) because I had "let her down".

Friend no more!

[Theydontknowweknowtheyknow]

I had a friend like this. Drove me bloody nuts. Always postponing and turning up late full of excuses. Makes you feel like your time just isn't important and that you're not worth turning up on time for.

I phased her out and now have more punctual friends.

[treesntrees]

the thing I hate as much as lateness is the person ringing to tell you they won't be coming for the meal you have already catered for. Not such a problem if you have others to eat the food but if you live on your own and buy a whole chicken or other roast you either waste food or get pretty fed up eating the same food for several meals in a row. Yes I know you can freeze but not all foods taste as good when frozen.

[OwlinaTree]

Most people who are late are bad at time management. They can get to work on time because that is a set routine.

[backtowork2015]

Treesntrees, I would be gutted if I'd cooked and people didn't show, how awful!

[BoskyCat]

Actually, my always-late friend also did that to me when she had recently been through a break-up and we offered to have her round for a nice dinner, which she gratefully accepted.

She emailed AFTER the time she should have shown up, to say she'd changed her mind as her ex had popped round and she wanted to spend time with him.

I was so fucking cross!

[EngTech]

Being late is rude - People who know me if I say a time, I mean +/- 5 minutes, any later, I assume they are not showing up and go on without them

Saves an awful lot of time twiddling your thumbs :)

Your time is important, if they can't support that, then they are not that good a friend

[thebirthlyhallows]

Did you reply to the text with a 'great see you there at 1pm' if not then I think yabu.

If everyone else replied to say they were getting there at 3pm then it's easy to see why her plans changed.

[Faye12345]

I texted her to tell her i was leaving the house at 5 to 1. The plans with the people coming later were separate to her completely x

[ThatsNotEvenAWord]

My MIL is like this. I think she tries to squeeze more into an amount of time than is physically possible. Gave up meeting her for coffee after sitting for an hour waiting with a wriggly DS, she was over on the other side of town caught in traffic but even without the traffic she'd never have made it.

We invited her over at New Year's Eve and had DS waiting up for her in his little dressing gown and she was so late that in the end I just put him to bed without seeing her. She has no concept of bedtime routines or anything like that. DH and I have now resorted to telling her earlier times so she gets to us something like on time.

Being late makes me feel sick, I am ridiculously early to everything because I panic.

[RebootYourEngine]

I hate being late for anything. My 11yr old ds on the other hand is late for just about everything. Drives me bonkers. He just wanders around in a daze half the time when he should be getting ready.

I have now started either not going places or leaving without him. Doubt it will make a difference.