...to think you shouldn't Facebook someone else's BFP?

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Have recently had (long awaited) BFP. Told MIL today. Told her it's v. early days (8 weeks I think?). Did not EXPLICITLY say not to tell anyone. An hour later she's put it on Facebook and tagged me, meaning it's visible to all. I deleted tag and got DH to ring her and get her to delete her post. No idea how many people saw it. I am absolutely fuming. DH thinks I'm overreacting and she was just excited. AIBU?

YANBU at all. I'd kill her. How insensitive and stupid.

I don't blame you for being fuming but go easy on her , she was probably just really excited . I know it's not quite the same but I told my my mum straight away at 4 weeks and she announced it on our family whatsapp group. Only my siblings and parents use it but I really wanted to tell them myself and didn't want it to look like I hadn't planned on telling them ( we're very close and I had every intention of telling them, but they live abroad and wanted to wait for an appropriate moment to share with them individually) . Social networking really does make it harder for people to keep things private . Some men just don't get it either, Dh wanted to put our first scan pic on fb which he didn't of course because thankfully he asked me first.

That's a bit shit, but hey, everyone's gonna know eventually, what's it matter who tells them. Don't be so precious. And don't trust her with anything ever again.

The thing is puffin, in my case I could have miscarried and I wouldn't want all my mum's FB friends to know that

tbh, I would have thought that you would know that she was the type to put this kind of news on fb so would have pre-empted that. If you haven't explicitly said not to tell then people will tell.

There is someone in dp's family circle who puts everything on fb, pregnancy announcements, people's first baby pictures (before the actual parents have had the chance) etc. So when me and dp got engaged we didn't tell those people who we knew couldn't be trusted not to make it public before we did. The upshot was that they had to find out via fb rather than being told in person because they couldn't be trusted not to make it public before we did.