Would IBU to not invite a toddler to a party because of peanut allergy?

[Tealtowel]

Main reason im totally scared they would have a reaction.
Obviously I would but a bowl of peanuts out but most things say may contain nuts..
There would be a buffet of bread cheese fruit sausage rolls etc etc. Also biscuit decorating with chocolate drops and sprinkles.

Or is this just a silly worry I shouldnt be thinking about?

Seems extreme and a bit mean not to invite. I would avoid obvious nuts eg Nutella, almond cake, and let the mum know what chocolate/ sweets will be available so they can advise or even bring an alternative.

I'd check things with the mum OR DAD and accommodate their needs accordingly. But I do a lot of catering for allergies/special requirements etc.

I don't agree Gin. What's unfair is the OP considering excluding the poor child for something they have no control over without considering consulting with the mum.

My DC are very stoical about all the times they can't eat the cake or the ice cream the rest are having, but to not even be invited because of their allergies would be gutting for them and for me.

Yabvvvu at that age the parent will be there and will be supervising. They may even bring their own food.

I'm sure someone with a DC with a nut allergy will confirm or correct here but as far as I know Cadbury's button are one of the few chocolates that you can be sure are nut free.

YABU - just speak to the mum or if you're sending out invites, just send them one and I'm sure she'll give you a bell. When my dd started primary she was friends with a boy with severe allergies. We just send out an invite, she text, asked if it would be alright if she stayed (he hadn't been to many parties), she stayed, brought some food just in case. I'd made a different party bag up for him - less sweets, more tat. It all worked out grand.

Allergies are scary things, even for parents.

I think some of the criticism of the OP is a bit unfair. She isn't thinking of excluding the child out of meanness just from worrying that she can keep him/her safe.

If you aren't used to these things you wouldn't know that the parents would be happy to stay/provide food/the stuff required for activities.

I'm obviously worrying over nothing. I will of course invite them.

I have scary visions of another child dropping food that may contain nuts and the toddler picking it up. I overly worry about children I think.
Thanks for the responses I literally thought anything that states may contain nuts must not be consumed.