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AIBU to think this is too much to cope with

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Fizzielove · 28/08/2015 22:09

My dad died 2/8 and my Granda has just passed away tonight.

How am I meant to cope?

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Osolea · 28/08/2015 23:40

Agree with keep just putting one foot in front of the other, keep getting to the end of that morning, day, next thing on the list you're needed to do and eventually stability will return.

Also think it is like the sentiment from AshVegas, and life can grow around the hole that is left.

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EddieStobbart · 28/08/2015 23:55

My DF died when DC1 was 4 months old. I found having a small DC helped me cope, helped me feel less alone and gave me a focus. I know that won't be the same for all.

You'll never stop missing them but it will get easier over time. I'm so very sorry, x

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Rainbowqueeen · 29/08/2015 03:40

I'm so sorry. You must feel utterly devastated.

Thinking of you

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paulapompom · 29/08/2015 09:12

Fizzie and Derxa - my heart goes out to you.

In the immediate aftermath I would advise try to eat well, do things you like - rubbish telly, long bath, cry when you need to xxxx

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AugustDay · 29/08/2015 09:22

I'm sorry to hear about your Granda.

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londonrach · 29/08/2015 09:30

. No words but completely understand as lost my gran and grandfather within 4 days of each other. Be kind to yourself. Do what you want to. Talk to friends. Hugs xxx

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Fizzielove · 29/08/2015 09:39

I honestly don't know how I'm going to get through the funeral ????

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derxa · 29/08/2015 09:41

You will get through it. Cry as much as you like- it will do you good.

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Fizzielove · 29/08/2015 09:49

I can't seem to stop crying. I'm worried it's going to upset my DC.

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Bluetrews25 · 29/08/2015 10:09

My sympathies to all who have gone through this or similar.
Been there.
You will gain an inner strength and understanding / empathy that will never leave you.
I think JK Rowling showed it beautifully with was it Luna Lovegood and Harry both being able to see the invisible creatures leading the carriages to Hogwarts as they had both suffered bereavements.
All I mean is that you will have 'the understanding' of loss, and can feel the bond with others who have lost their families...... so you will become aware of those around you who have already been through it and survived and will reach out to you to hold you up.
Try to be aware of the love around you and take comfort from even tiny positives wherever you can see them.

Best advice I got was 'be kind to yourself'.