To show my DD you tube footage of pedestrians being hit by cars

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I've not done it yet but I'm at the end of my tether with my very soon to be 11year old who simply refuses to switch her brain on around roads. Twice today I witnessed her simply walking out into a road without looking. On the first occasion I gave her a bollocking and thought I'd got the message through. Less than an hour later she does the same bloody thing.

She knows HOW to cross a road, but is too lazy / away with the fairies to actually do it.

So I thought i might show her some clips on you tube of what exactly might happen to her if she got hit by a car but I've looked at a few and they are truely horrific.

Is there anything I can show her that i realistic but isn't as hideous as the stuff I found on you tube that looks like the real deal to me .

One about kites and pylons sticks in my mind shove

a YouTube clip would haunt me and I'm 23. I think an 11yo would find it really distressing
Yes, I've just looked a few of the ones linked to the one above and am in tears.
But isn't that the point? Getting through to a child in danger of ending up a road casualty statistic?

I have ADHD and as a kid and occasionally an adult I would wander into traffic. Showing her a video isn't going to help if she's off in outer space while she's crossing. That's not something you can really consciously control as a kid since their brains aren't developed enough.

Also, kids have invincibility complexes. Your child is going to watch this and go "Oh, the other kids got hurt, but not me. I'm immortal. Wrinkle? WTF are those?". A video is either going to be lost on her or give her nightmares about dying kids. But it's not going to bring a space case back to earth or convince a kid they could actually die.

I'd start by looking up some local cases, but if that didn't work then yanbu.

shove yy. so crap it was obvious what was going to happen. Would have been mid to late 80's/ v early 90's cos was at primary, but iirc even then they must have been older cos I remember we all sniggered at the dodgy clothes and hair styles.

The Respect Everyone's Journey DOE ad is on youtube. It's good as it shows a lot of near misses and you get lulled into a false sense of security thinking that everyone in the ad is going to get away with it. The last one doesn't

That video kick was talking about is brilliant, not gory at all, but really gets the message across, id show her that one.
If it all fails i would show her videos, may shock her enough to teach her to be safe near roads.

YANBU I did it as my DC weren't taking it seriously and a relative was run over as a child (multiple broken bones, lucky to survive) as well as my friends toddler who was very tragically killed. I didn't show gruesome ones but there are some which show people being flung feet in the air which make you realise the danger and that it isn't simply just bumping into you or you falling down and getting up. There is one showing walking out between parked cars (no injuries but really makes you think) and one which shows a tragic mistake at a crossing, an easy mistake to make and has made me more careful. Of course these are truly heartbreaking films and difficult to watch but I felt it was right to show my teens. In a second it can happen without extreme care and it can be brutal.

As a child I was shown firework injuries and the boy ran over on a train, they stayed with me and made me more cautious. they did scare me but better than the alternative?

Some of the govt ones are very very good. I got hit by a car about four years ago running for a bus when one came speeding round a corner. (As it stood she wasn't insured nor was the car taxed which was interesting as I had to go to hospital and speak to police!) but once she's hit she won't do it again.

I think a bit of shock for 30 seconds is the lesser of two evils

EatShitDerek, you lost your leg as a result of being hit by a car?

Is there any chance there is an underlying neurological condition? Absence seizures in children (and adults) can look to others like daydreaming......."away with the fairies" how long does it last, would your child be able to respond to your attempt to get her attention during these episodes.

ESD. .

EatShitDerek have read up thread. I'm very sorry to hear what happened to you when you were 11.

God yes I am Still obsessed about kites & pylons.

I will have this with dreamy 10 year old ds3 - I did specifuc teaching for specific roads for ds2 & started small.

Well I showed her the video that kick suggested, plus the near miss one (Respsect Everyone's Journey), the one with the girl who gets hit at 30 mph rather than 40mph and a couple of crash test dummy videos. I also told her that if she does it again this week I will cancel her birthday party and if she does it beyond that there will be a telling off of such magnitude that she will never, ever forget it. That telling off may well happen in a public place because it will happen the moment I catch her crossing the road without looking. So I've gone for a visual shock, consequences and threat of serious bollocking that could also be very embarrassing for her.

I think it went in. Yesterday, in M&S I caught her stopping, looking and listening before she crossed the main aisle!!

Time will tell though. She has no learning difficulties or anything. She's just effing lazy.

A little bit late to this thread but I worked through this with a young girl I was working with. I also found that repetition and practice is key to safety awareness so that it becomes habitual.

I'm sure you already have but I'd let your daughter take the lead when crossing the road, and let her guide you so that she has to consciously make a decision of when to cross. It might help with her awareness. I'm assuming she isn't walking around with her phone in her hand or iPod in?

Stop, look and listen in M&S that should be rolled out across all shops!