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MIL buying rubbish food for DS

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LovelyBranches · 28/08/2015 11:39

DS is 10 months old and is doing well with his weaning. I try my best to give him lots of fruit and veg and he only drinks water or milk. I make his meals myself and I fully admit to being fussy with his food.

MIL knows this, but constantly buys him rubbish food. Last night it was quavers and fruit shoots. It's been sugary yogurt, plastic cheese and chocolate before. I don't let him eat any of it, and have tried to say over and over again that I want him to have a fresh healthy diet for as long as possible. I understand that as he gets older he will have more processed foods or just treats in general but he eats well now and I don't want to encourage him to get fussy because he prefers the sweet unhealthy foods.

DH in general agrees with me, but also thinks I'm being ungrateful and tells me to just smile and nod and then chuck it in the bin. I think that's wasteful. I am also worried that MIL will feed this kind of rubbish to DS when I'm not there. I've tried many times to say that I don't like him eating rubbish but she isn't getting the message.

AIBU?

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sooperdooper · 28/08/2015 11:44

Does she bring it to your house? I'd just put the bag to one side and say 'oh he won't eat these, I did mention that didn't I?' And hand her the bag back with a smile and 'it'll only go to waste here' as she leaves :)

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LovelyBranches · 28/08/2015 11:46

She does bring it to our house, last night she put it in the fridge and cupboard and didn't mention it until she was leaving.

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SaucyJack · 28/08/2015 11:46

As long as you've made it quite clear to her that you won't be feeding it to your son and that's she wasting her cash, then YANBU to chuck it in the bin.

If you don't want your PFB to have processed "kiddy" food at his age, then that's entirely your call.

WhatTheJeffHasGoneOnHere · 28/08/2015 11:47

My mil (who I do like!) is the reason DS will no longer drink water. She have him squash as a treat. Great. Angry

Eat the quavers and chocolate yourself!

WhatTheJeffHasGoneOnHere · 28/08/2015 11:48

My 11 month old gets a quaver or two sometimes, he's my second.

0x530x610x750x630x79 · 28/08/2015 11:55

My 11 month old gets a quaver or two sometimes, he's my second.

snap,
My PFB didn't have any chocolate (well when i was around) until maybe 2 years old, but there was a large gap and i couldn't let PFB have his choc and not give baby any.

Choccywoccydodah · 28/08/2015 11:56

Up until 18 months I used to give both my parents and the in laws what I wanted DS to eat in the day.
Fruit shoots were massively banned (he has the odd one now he's just turned 4).
And tbh I never minded a tiny yoghurt. But if you feel that strongly I would just give them the food.

Mrsjayy · 28/08/2015 12:00

Why would she buy fruitshoot for a baby and chocolate ?

Gileswithachainsaw · 28/08/2015 12:01

Oh that would drive me crazy. nothing wrong with allowing a small taste of something sometimes but my kids don't get a full bag of crisps at 9 and 4 let alone at 10 months.and as fir fruit shoots well even as a more relaxed parent second time around id have gone nuts at my baby being given something that ml for ml contains more sugar than coke.

I prefer to wait until weaning and meals are full established before allowing crap to be introduced

WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 28/08/2015 12:07

Thanks, but he's not fond of those.
His absolute favourite is a banana or a bowl of strawberries. Any chance you can bring those next time?
Or a shiny new beaker to put his water in?

My ds had 3 chocolate buttons for his first birthday!

HermioneWeasley · 28/08/2015 12:09

As another poster said, keep handing it back to her.

And if you don't trust her to stick to your food rules, she doesn't get him unsupervised.

2ndSopranosRule · 28/08/2015 13:16

We had massive issues with MIL and food, exactly this sort of thing. My dc are older now so I am more relaxed about what they get outside of the home but when they were younger we couldn't trust her at all. We still fully don't tbh.

When you have someone trying to feed a 1 yo chewy sweets proclaiming them to be a healthy choice as "the pack says they contain real fruit juice!" you take control, I find.

If she's anytime like my MIL she won't ever learn so just say thanks, then eat the stuff yourself. Like we did with the four Easter eggs she bought dd1 at 5 mo.

5Foot5 · 28/08/2015 13:22

Well, no YANBU, but is that what you actually say to her when she hands over the food - "No thanks, I don't want him eating rubbish"?

If so I can see why your DH thinks you sound ungrateful.

Thelushinthepub · 28/08/2015 13:25

Yanbu - why can't she just respect your wishes? What a pain.

I dread my MIl doing stuff like this. She's not very bright tbh and was terrible with my DN (giving him j20 at 6m because it's fruit juice Hmm) and was obsessed with trying to give him sweets. I would tell
Her he's too young so you'll eat them and not leave him with her unsupervised.

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