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AIBU?

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To go for a drink alone?

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YeahOkayWhatever · 27/08/2015 19:25

Had an appointment the other day that finished a lot earlier than I expected so I had a couple of hours to kill. I went to a restaurant/bar that I know quite well and got myself a drink and a side order. I just sat in peace; no phone, no book. Just me and my thoughts and it was bloody lovely.

Would it be crazy of me to do this say, once a fortnight? As it is I'd be catching the train to town, a 15 min journey at around 8pm then a 5 min walk to the bars and restaurants. Last train is 11:30pm and I'd be back through the door by 12. I don't have an issue with being alone but in the back of my head I can't help but think I'd be silly to make travelling home late at night whilst intoxicated a regular thing.
Thought I'd throw it out to the Aibu court to get some perspective.

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FithColumnist · 27/08/2015 19:28

YANBU to have a drink in a bar on your own, but getting leathered and then travelling home late on your own is probably not the wisest course of action.

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YeahOkayWhatever · 27/08/2015 19:29

When I say intoxicated, I mean not looking outwardly drunk but very much drunk in my head IYSWIM.

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RattusRattus · 27/08/2015 19:30

I'm not sure. So you'd be out alone in bars and restaurants from 8pm - 11pm? The getting drunk on your own thing isn't probably that great psychologically. I'd eat in a restaurant and have a couple of glasses of wine but it wouldn't take me 3 hours.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 27/08/2015 19:30

It was lovely because it was a one off.

If it became a fortnightly thing it might lose its shine.

winchester1 · 27/08/2015 19:33

I do it occasionally but mix it with other things like go to a movie, theatre, a massage. So you get down time alone in diff ways.

SaucyJack · 27/08/2015 19:33

Depends. Are you liable to start miaowing along to James Blunt after a few? (It's what I do given quarter of a chance to get pissed in peace)

goddessofsmallthings · 27/08/2015 19:35

I don't have any qualms about popping into bars/restaurants and drinking/eating alone - as you say, it can be 'bloody lovely' to keep company with yourself outside of your home and I indulge myself a couple of times a week.

However, if you become very intoxicated I suggest you give consideration to getting a cab home or finding a pleasant watering hole closer to where you live.

Marynary · 27/08/2015 19:46

I think that it is fine to have one or maybe two drinks but I don't think it is a good idea to drink much more than that if you are by yourself. Also won't you get hassled by annoying men?

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YeahOkayWhatever · 27/08/2015 19:47

Skip- The whole idea is for this outing to take as long as humanly possible Jokes aside, I'd most likely be grabbing something to eat and taking a book with me for the final 1/2.

Still- You may be onto something there. But when the novelty wears off ill probably be moving onto something a little more adventurous than getting pissed, as Winchester has suggested.

Saucy- If James Blunt is playing then of course I'll be doing my fair share of meowing, but I'm not about to go all solo accapella

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Bullshitbingo · 27/08/2015 19:54

Sounds like bliss, although I'm more partial to a night in on my own drinking and eating to my hearts content. Currently have a huge veggie pizza and a bottle of cobra whilst watching a boxset, my happy place....

ClashCityRocker · 27/08/2015 19:56

A nice glass of wine with something snacky and a good book is one of life's simple pleasures.

I'm working away loads at the minute, and one of the perks is being able to relax in new surroundings, people watch etc.

Do be aware of your surroundings though and make sure you stay safe. I think having a 'set' time to come home might take the shine of it - it's nice to be able to amble back as you please. Also, I tend to do it earlier in the evening - say six til eight - as there are less arseholes about.

RattusRattus · 27/08/2015 20:02

Book + wine + nice light meal = total heaven. Can I join you if I promise not to speak a word.

Gingermakesmesick · 27/08/2015 20:03

I wouldn't like it but if you want to - don't see why not really.

AtrociousCircumstance · 27/08/2015 20:05

Sounds great, do it. Do whatever makes you happy if it impacts no one else negatively!

ScarletRuby · 27/08/2015 20:19

I used to do this regularly, and I bloody loved it..

SolidGoldBrass · 27/08/2015 20:20

FFS some of you are utter wusses. I have spent decades going out by myself, having a few drinks, dancing, chatting to people (some of whom I knew, some of whom were potential new friends) and then going home on the night bus alone. Yes, occasionally I got aggravation, but it breaks down to something like one incident per 150 nights out with no problem.

And the thing is, the more women who do go for a drink or meal alone at night, the better. It's reaffirming that women have the right to be out in public without a visible male owner.

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