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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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o think that it's only on mumsnet that people cancel holidays so easily?

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gymboywalton · 27/08/2015 10:43

I read so many threads on here where people will say 'well you must cancel the holiday' for many reasons.

In real life i don't know anyone who would cancel their holiday with days to go unless something seriously major happened.

but on here people say it all the time.

do people really do this ? or do just say that others should do it?

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HackerFucker22 · 27/08/2015 12:57

Is this regarding the thread yesterday about the woman who didn't want to cancel her holiday despite it meaning her DH couldn't take on a temporary contract and they wouldn't be able to pay their mortgage without said temporary job? Because I wholehearted agreed she should cancel the holiday actually I thought she should go without her DH

Booboostwo · 27/08/2015 13:02

We had to cancel a holiday because my horse was sick - no insurance payout. The horse was not responding to treatment and we were very worried about him as well as feeling that it was not fair to leave the animal sitter with a big problem. (DHorse was fine in the end, still here years later with his endless vet bills)

JustMeOverHere · 27/08/2015 13:02

We cancelled a holiday a few years ago as my GP absolutely forbade me to fly due to a recently diagnosed medical condition and I was heartbroken. We lost about £400 excess I recall but the insurance paid for the rest.

My condition is stable now and I love being able to fly again. :)

WhoTheFuckIsSimon · 27/08/2015 13:03

We had to cancel a holiday in March as dd was very ill. We still haven't got the money back even though we filled the forms out and got Drs form months ago.

Bastard insurance sent me the Drs form (which cost me £20) saying the Dr hadnt filled out the box saying whether in his opinion dds illness was the only reason we couldn't travel. Form has come back and the Dr has ticked the box which IMHO is filling it out. So ive just scribbled "yes" next to the tick and sent it back!

ludovica · 27/08/2015 13:17

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Branleuse · 27/08/2015 13:22

people on here are often so dramatic when trying to get others to make really important life changing decisions. Its very easy to decide what youd do, from the comfort of behind your keyboard.

Rafflesway · 27/08/2015 13:25

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Badders123 · 27/08/2015 13:29

I had to cancel a holiday last year. My son needed an urgent op. We got our money back.
The year before my mum had to cancel a holiday as my dad died. They refused to refund her.

It does happen.

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore · 27/08/2015 13:43

I had to cancel a holiday this summer due to an illness in the family. I was sad and frustrated about it, but it had to be done. My dcs both have SNs and they still understood the situation and were okay with it, although obviously disappointed. We made the effort to do some other fun things when we were able, and hopefully will have a nice holiday next summer. These things happen.

And yes, I lost out on some money over it, even though we had insurance. I did get reimbursed for some of it. I cancelled pretty much last minute.

AuntyMag10 · 27/08/2015 13:46

Yanbu, but this is mn lala land

googoodolly · 27/08/2015 13:53

We cancelled our holiday this year because the cat needed life-saving surgery. For us it was a no-brainer. Luckily we only lost a couple of hundred on pre-booked train tickets because we were staying with family and had no accommodation costs.

It was disappointing but just one of those things. Said cat is currently sat behind my shoulder purring away so it was well worth cancelling to save her life :)

RomComPhooey · 27/08/2015 13:55

insurance won't pay out in most of the situations where it's suggested, and even when it does it takes a long time for the money to come through.

We recently had to cancel a holiday for clearly defined medical reason. The insurance company's claim company told me they'd make a decision with 5 working days of receiving all the forms/medical evidence. It took me 2-3 days to sort out the paperwork. The money was in our account within 5 working days of them receiving it, about 11 days after I rang my insurer to let them know we needed to cancel. (HSBC if anyone is interested.)

bruffin · 27/08/2015 14:02

Agree romcom
Ds holiday was end of June. It was paid out with 6 weeks despite the hospital losing the paper work.

WorldsBiggestGrotbag · 27/08/2015 14:06

This will sound really awful to some but when I was 14 we were due to go on a family holiday to Majorca, our first time abroad as a family, and my brother and I were taking a friend each. The day before we were due to go my grandmother died. We didn't cancel. The rest of the family agreed we should go and we could postpone the funeral until we were home. My uncle managed the funeral arrangements.

AnotherTimeMaybe · 27/08/2015 15:23

I think it's very easy to suggest things from a keyboard. I don't think it's just cancelling holidays but advice such as retrain, up childcare hours, work from home, set up your own business, stop contact, go n/c, . I think the intricacies of people's lives are very much lost on a solution offered by someone with good intentions.

This this this like so easily suggesting LTB!

CalleighDoodle · 27/08/2015 15:27

Another is have counselling, with no thought to have bloody expensive that actually is!

fuzzywuzzy · 27/08/2015 15:50

Counselling suggestions are usually made when it's evident the poster has other issues they need to work thro.

Ltb is never suggested lightly, I always find it odd when posters say it is, nobody ever links to a thread showing where it is either.

Advice to retrain etc is generally in context.

The cancelling holiday thing is absurd, I do think that the step parenting forum seems like a free for all, everyone piles in when they wouldn't otherwise.

TheFairyCaravan · 27/08/2015 15:52

We cancelled a holiday because DS1 was ill and taken into hospital on the morning we were due to fly. We made the decision the night before that we weren't going. My mum thought we were mad (before he took a turn for the worse).

We told the insurance company on the Monday morning and had the money less than 2 weeks later.

freethecagedhens · 27/08/2015 15:54

I do think there are a number of stockpile responses - cancel the holiday, use a food bank, get counselling, LTB, which can be frustrating.

I had a similar experience to lud once.

ShouldILTB · 27/08/2015 16:12

I cancelled a holiday years ago (after trying to sell it on ebay lol).

Split up with BF at the time - about 2 months before we were due to go - cancelled a month later after I wasn't able to sell it on. Wasn't able to claim on insurance....

Was well worth losing the money not to be stuck with a knob for two weeks though.

ArendelleQueen · 27/08/2015 16:14

I've just cancelled a holiday. :( It wasn't major, major but it needed doing. Some people on here (and in RL) are fanatical about their holidays and their 'need', you only need the 'term time holidays' to see that!

RomComPhooey · 27/08/2015 17:11

I have to say, I am feeling the lack of proper break but we'll manage - the medical need to stay (for emergency surgery) trumped the rest of the family's need for a holiday. It's the first time in 20+ years of travelling with DH/as a family that we've ever had to claim, but the relief of knowing it was covered was priceless - it made a lot of the decisions easier.

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