AIBU to think this woman is a bit odd...

[Learningtoletgo]

Following on from a post I made on another thread.

I had major problems with a colleague from work a few years back. She befriended me very quickly and tried to make me one of her best friends, all the while she was actively trying to ruin my career behind my back. She did all this whilst smiling to my face and drinking coffee with me. Anyway turns out she was doing this to other friends and colleagues. I confronted her on it and she denied everything saying 'but can't we still be friends. .?' Err no! I had seen emails she had written and caught her in the act so to speak so I knew she was lying. So I told her we were colleagues and needed to maintain a professional working relationship in the workplace, nothing more. She ran off crying?? Anyway it was horrible. I soon found another job through an internal transfer and then found out she'd tried to sabotage that by stopping me going! All very weird couldn't get out of there fast enough. With hindsight I wish I'd put in a compliant but I just wanted to move on.

Until recently we worked in the same company but it's very large with multiple sites so managed to stay away from her for a number of years. However over the years i found out through colleagues that she was still trying to make trouble for me! I've thankfully left the company now so at least I won't have to deal with her nonsense anymore.

Here's the part...

She recently sent me a Facebook friend request! I mean WTF! Really??? Why on earth would she think I would want to be friends with her. I hardly ever use FB but there's no way I'd want her seeing what's going on in my life. I also suspect that she's been looking at me on linkedin. Social media I know you can't control who looks but a friends request??? I had to show my husband to prove I wasn't seeing things! He was furious I mean really angry as he knew exactly what happened and couldn't believe her nerve.

Please help me understand what the hell she is thinking because to be honest I'm baffled!

You're giving her far too much headspace and power over you. She's a pathetic, friendless bitch with nothing better to do than foster some deluded notion that you would want to talk to her again. Forget her, the best revenge is living well.

You lot are fab and this is exactly what I need to hear! Bat that made me chuckle.

I know DH wasn't serious about the Police, he was just exasperated. Not a Police matter at all want to make that clear! Now if a badger chases me down the road that would be a different matter

Laffy is right about the headspace thing. I'm handing over my emotions to a fruit loop to control. Not good.

Like Desert said - block her on both FB and Linkedin! Especially Linkedin - you don't want her looking at your connections and company info on that site. I wonder if she is looking for a job actually and thinks you might have openings at your company? Despite trying to wreck your last job I wouldn't be surprised if she thinks it's blown over or that you didn't know all the stuff she did behind your back. People who act like this always minimise their own behaviour and genuinely don't realise that they've been fully caught out. I'm guessing she thinks you might be useful again.

I had a Facebook request from a girl who bullied me for 5years in high school, attacked me and everything. When I rejected it, she called me childish . Why do people want to be friends on fb when they know you don't like them?

I've also had old school bullies friend request me. A couple of them keep sending requests over and over again even though I delete it. I don't block as I quite enjoy the satisfaction of denying their requests repeatedly.

Their ego's must be so overinflated that they think everyone must be falling over themselves to be their friend.

I had two separate people whi caused me great upset with their complete bunny boiler tendencies... Both sent me friend requests... One repeatedly... It gave me great satisfaction to delete them... One even called me childish, for not letting bygones be bygones... After her behaviour almost drove me to breakdown...

Well I've done it, I've blocked her.

I really get the satisfaction of rejecting the repeated requests particularly with school bullies .

However like avocado this woman almost drove me to a breakdown too. I really wish I could post all the things she did but it would make me recognisable and I don't want her stalking me on her if she's on here .

Good job OP.

I stand by my instinct that says you have popped up on her radar again suddenly because you may be potentially useful to her in some way and I'm still guessing that it would somehow job related as you previously worked together and she checked you out on LinkedIn not just FB. Maybe she want's you to pass on her CV to someone in your company or there are openings etc... Irritating not to know what she's after but far better to not interact or acknowledge her in anyway as you's definitely end up regretting it!

Yeah, I had two nutcase coworkers that were stalking me online and off. I had to block them on several sites, including email. If they tried contacting me now, they'd really have to go out of there way. But the obsession with me was just bizarre (and frankly, if my husband was as obsessed with another woman as these guys were with me, I'd question our marriage).

I did complain to HR and they just tried to claim I was making things up and that I was playing games. I ended up leaving. It wasn't worth the fight.

Sometimes the best you can do is just remove yourself from the situation.