to think this all sounds a bit suspect

[maggieryan]

I'll try to keep it quick. A friend of ours was best man at his friends wedding
For some reason they invited us (we aren't really friends of theirs). Anyway we got a lovely fancy wedding invite and the wedding was brillant. The bride had every little detail to perfection. Anyway we gave money in a card to our friend as he was best man(he was fairly locked and twice I has to tell him to put it in his pocket). Anyway move on a few mths and I realised I never got a thank you card. I knew this was odd because she was very meticulous. Was out with our friend last night and asked did he get a cars and he said yes, told him I didn't get one and was he sure he gave present. He got all defensive and I said sure I'll ask her myself (which of course I couldn't do) and he said immediately you can't do that. So now I'm thinking they never got our present. I'm mortified as I see her a lot in school yard and I was actually thinking she was a bit cool. So embarrassed that she might think we went to her wedding and didn't bother getting her anyrhing. I can't ask. Any suggestions?

Just ask her. If she's already being a bit cool, what have you got to lose.

I'd mention it to be honest.

Why not just engineer a chat where you ask if she's recovered from the wedding and say 'I hope you didn't mind us just giving you cash - we weren't sure what you'd like.'

And see what she says

I know but what do you say. Say if I ask "hiya did you get my present" and she aaya yes. It would look like I'm being petty over not getting a thank you card and if she says no I'm dropping my friend in it. I have a feeling he hasn't a clue whether he gave it or not. Ahhhh it's tricky one!!

She obviously likes you and wanted to get friendlier, hence the invitation. If this feeling is reciprocated (and it seems to be), then clear the air.

Noiwontstoptalking that's brilliant one...yes I could try that. Thank you x

I would (and have) ask and not sure if be worried about dropping friend in it.

Happy to help maggie

I felt terrible after our wedding because my pils mixed up a pile of opened and unopened wedding cards when they took stuff back to our house after the wedding.

We thought we'd opened everything in that box and didn't find a check for 3 months. That was a ^deeply* embarrassing conversation.

^^ cheque