to be cross with my friend?

[cariadthebaird]

Friend and I moving out of flat this Sunday.

Obviously we need to close down all bill accounts (water, elec, internet, council tax...), sort down giving back keys and clean the place as well as physically move our things out.

He has been away on hol and is due back tomorrow. However he will be staying at his gf's over the next few days which is a 10 min walk away while I am in the house itself. He has family commitments so this is easier for him.

Obviously while he has been away I have been liasing with landlord and paying bills/shutting down account. He will of course reimburse me for this.

AIBU to be a bit annoyed though that I have been doing the lion's share of the moving out admin? Especially annoyed that he will not physically be in the property for cleaning. I can just see myself doing it...

Pay someone else to do it and then add it to what he owes.

Are you moving with this person or are you both moving to different places?

"hi Joe Bloggs, I need a hand with the movie and cleaning our house. Is Thursday and Friday ok?"

We are both moving to different places. Just feel like if I had also gone on hol how would it have been done!!!

well he's moved out already hasn't he - practically, physically and emotionally. You're not unreasonable to be annoyed you've been left to sort everything out but there's probably not much you can do except make sure he pays his share if you end up paying for a cleaner.

Bit resentful as well that Ive had to spend hours on the phone to the bill people. Sorry if I sound petty.

His stuff is still here Highkickin

I am so tempted to move to my bf's house and just let him do the work. But that would be unfair... Just want to give him taste of own medicine!

Ok, someone needs to make those phone calls. Presumably they are done now, so that's sorted.

You can't move his stuff, and you also can't clean until he's moved his stuff.

If he doesn't move his stuff in time and/or doesn't allow you time for cleaning, make sure it's deducted from his deposit.

Simple.

well presumably he'll fetch his stuff? If not, leave it there, not your problem. If you're there when he fetches his stuff, try and get him to do whatever else needs doing maybe?

I get that you're annoyed and I don't blame you, I'm just not sure what you can do. I had flatmates who moaned if we ran out of coffee etc but never went shopping themselves - thought it was OK to just pay me back when I bought stuff and got really cross when I decided I'd had enough of it and stopped shopping. Some people are just inconsiderate. It's not the money, it's the time - and their time being more valuable than yours, in their opinion. Sorry you're spending ages on the phone, that's frustrating.

Thanks both

Yeah exactly I know someone has to do it, I think it's just the assumption that somehow my time is less important than his? And that I will just sort it

I think some people just assume that youll be happy to do something. I dont mind per se its just the assumption I think, it rankles a bit that I havent even been thanked!

I've moved a lot and it's never taken hours to sort out. At least doing it yourself you know it's been done properly!

Just say you need a hand with stuff, both do your own bedrooms, one does living room and bathroom and one does the kitchen as it will take a while?