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to not want to make an over the top fuss...

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fairyfeatures · 25/08/2015 14:38

of the baby for the whole duration of every time we visit??

I visit a couple regularly. Their DIL and PFB GC (4months old) are there on every visit. I always head straight to baby as soon as I walk in and say hello, make a little fuss etc. all of the things you can say to a baby, comment on how well baby looks/is dressed/growing etc. I feel that is sufficient....

NO! Whole visit is constantly interrupted by ''oh look at what baby is doing!'' / ''Have you seen baby do this?'' Even when eating a meal, you are expected to get up to look at a particular expression or some dribble... If you do not over the top exaggerate on how amazing this is, you can feel the disapproving looks burning into your forehead honestly. This also applies to several of the same photographs taken over again.

Are my comments not enough or should I coo over this baby the whole visit and forget about the rest of the world and our pre PFB GC conversations?!

FWIW, I love children, have children and am currently pregnant myself so I am hardly a cow when it comes to babies/kids. But I certainly wont want my guests to feel this way when they visit me & there are other things in the world other than teething expressions and dribble....

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xavierfondue · 25/08/2015 18:01

I think it's very unreasonable of people not to have commented on this thread before now.

Bumping it up for you.

SaucyJack · 25/08/2015 18:08

Why is the baby always there? Do the GPs always invite the DIL or does she just turn up? And who is it who's trying to get you to look at the baby the whole time?

If this has come from the GPs then YApossiblyBU. Obviously there's no harm in asking for an adult-only time, but if they don't want to then you'll have to suck it up or not visit any more really.

Life moves on and people change yadda yadda, and it seems you've been shoved down the pecking order.

Rainuntilseptember15 · 25/08/2015 18:09

Xavier, stop stirring Wink

Ilovenannyplum · 25/08/2015 18:09

YANBU
obviously I think my baby is amazing Wink but I don't think that the world should stop and everything revolve around him. Acknowledge the baby, make all the right comments and then move on!
I like non baby talk after watching sodding In The Night Garden on loop

TheReluctantCountess · 25/08/2015 18:15

Can you arrange to meet them away from their home?

babymouse · 25/08/2015 18:22

No advice, but I had this problem with my dmil and my dsil's kids and it comes from a place of love. Well, I tried to remind myself of that when the over the top admirationfest was going on!

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