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To not want to share a holiday with dsds mum next summer

15 replies

Matilda2013 · 23/08/2015 17:16

She has not suggested this but both me and dp and dsds mum want to take her on holiday during the summer next year. We both said this was fine for each of us but dps mum said dsd didn't seem too happy and we could technically all go away to the same place and have a week each with dsd. Personally I don't think this would work as there would probably be changes to plans etc even if at different hotels. Dps mum thinks we need a child free holiday too as we "need time to ourselves" which she has been saying a lot lately even though we love having dsd and really want a family holiday with her. Plus if she has two holidays it covers most of the summer holiday child care...

I think it may just be dps mum with these thoughts (I doubt if I was dsds mum id want to do this and i know dp doesn't want it) but is it unreasonable of me to completely dismiss it??

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DoreenLethal · 23/08/2015 17:17

'Ha ha ha. No'

BuggerLumpsAnnoyed · 23/08/2015 17:18

It's unreasonable of you to of given it any more thought. Forget about this random hypothetical situation and move on.

Matilda2013 · 23/08/2015 17:21

Haha I think I was just worried that it's maybe secretly a suggestion from dsds mum and she was just testing the water...

Oh well I told her no straight away anyway and dp feels the same Smile

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Loki17 · 23/08/2015 18:06

It is absolutely none of your dp's mothers business. At all.

Matilda2013 · 23/08/2015 18:14

Dps mum does tend to share her opinion a lot. And as she is still close to dsds mum i don't know if she forgets that we don't really want to spend time together. she has also recently developed a notion that me and dp "haven't really had time to get to know one another" in our two years together as he had dsd.. Even though until January when we moved in together most of our time was without dsd.. Probably just a future mil problem really!!

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BestZebbie · 23/08/2015 18:50

Does 'I think you should go on a couples holiday' mean 'I think you should have a baby together', do you think?

Matilda2013 · 23/08/2015 19:01

Oh is that what it could be?? Confused she already knows we're going to have one just after we have a bigger house and have some savings etc?? Oh I don't know it confuses me Smile

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Junosmum · 23/08/2015 21:29

YANBU! That is really weird!

Loki17 · 23/08/2015 22:56

If you have an amicable relationship with your dsd's mum then that is brilliant. Holidaying in the same place might be a step too far though. For everyone. As for needing 'couple time', surely you get time just the two of you if custody is shared? Your mil sounds bonkers!

Matilda2013 · 24/08/2015 10:42

We all have an amicable enough relationship but there are still things about her that make me Hmm so I think holidaying with her wouldn't be best for us!

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grapejuicerocks · 24/08/2015 10:48

It could work if you each go for two weeks, overlapping by a few days. Dsd would have an almost month long holiday, with you all there for a few days. It depends though if you would be expected to socialise with the mum or if she could just flit between you all whilst you do your own thing.

Only if you want to though.

Ilovenannyplum · 24/08/2015 10:52

Oh Christ no. YANBU.
No amount of all inclusive booze can make that a good situation Confused

Matilda2013 · 24/08/2015 11:38

See I wouldn't mind overlapping for a few days but I have no idea how that would work with booking flights etc. Hopefully we can both just organise a holiday each and dsd will have a lovely time and her school holidays will be mostly coped with in summer

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3CheekyLittleMonkeys · 24/08/2015 12:04

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grapejuicerocks · 07/09/2015 18:15

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